I can't take it anymore

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Hi i am 12 and I'm going to be 13 in a few months. My problem is that I don't have anywhere to stay i have everything else planned out but that. I'm planning on running away for 3 days and 2 night to get a point across to my mom that she can't just ignore me I have tried to talk to her about my issues and about what my step dad to be does to me and my 4 siblings, he drinks a lot, yells a lot, has a very short temper, and sometimes gets physical. I can't take it anymore he has been doing this for many years and she won't listen to me. I will not put up with it any longer, she has to get that me and my siblings need her help and attention so that he will stop doing these things and the very few time that she has listened to me over the past few years my step dad to be denies it and ignores her and then is angry with me and he doesn't think that he needs to change because as he sees it, my mom needs him to support our family so he doesn't change at all and I know the risks if running away so that why I turned to this site to les me know if I do find a shelter, how long would I be able to stay at a shelter before they would have to call my parents and if a police man found me before I came home, would they be able to arrest me? I live in Pasco county Florida.

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re: I can't take it anymore

Hi there-it sounds like you really want to communicate to your mom about how you are feeling and that running away seems like the only way to get her attention, glad you came on here to talk about it. It’s great that you have tried reaching out to her before, but must be difficult to be asking for her to help and not get the response that you need. From what you have shared with us, it sounds like things at home are really hard, especially with your step-dad. You mentioned that things have gotten physical with him- have you ever told anyone else about that? You definitely deserve to be safe in your own home and you can always call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY for options such as reporting abuse.

With all that you shared, it’s understandable that you might feel like running away is your only hope and it’s great that you are trying to plan ahead to stay safe. We are certainly not here to tell you what to do, but if you do decide you want to explore some of the many other options you have, you can always call us 24 hours a day or chat with us from 4:30-11:30pm CST. Although we are not legal experts, we can tell you that usually if you runaway and there is a runaway report filed, the police would not arrest you, but just return you home.

As far as shelters go, generally speaking, due to your age, they will be required to notify or obtain consent from your parent/guardian within 24 hours of your arrival although every shelter can differ. Unfortunately, we cannot find shelter in your town directly, but in Tampa you can call the Children’s Services Department at 813-264-3821 or Lutheran Social Services 1-800-651-1853. If there is anything else we can do, please don’t hesitate to reach out again. Take care,
-NRS

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grandmother issues

Hello,
I'm 16 and I really would like to leave my grannys house see I lived here basically all my life since mom and dad abandon me my depression level is very severe she puts a lot more stress on me then ever she calls me fat half the reason I developed bulimia now ima crack head in her book where I've drop a lot of pounds in a short period time she always yelling screaming calling me wh*res etc basically every name I'm the book
She's called the police on me before she's put me out and she always accuse me of stealing off of her I basically sit here give her my whole check cus I don't really need it and she treats me crappy I love her though really but I honestlty think if I get out of this house my depression will calm down and ill be more happy : (

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Re: grandmother issues

Hello,

Thanks for reaching out to us. It sounds like you’re going through a very tough time and looking to get to a safe place. We’ll try and help out as best as we can.

We’re sorry to hear that your grandmother has treated you this way all these years. How do you normally cope and deal with this stress? It sounds like you’ve been able to make stuff work for you but it also sounds like you’re fed up. Who do you have around you that’s helpful to talk to?
Have you ever talked to anyone at school about the way she treats you? Would you ever want to tell someone?

If you’re trying to leave home at this age, where do you think you’d go? Are there any safe places and people that understand what you’re going through? Would your grandmother be okay with you leaving? Have you talked about it?

If you are able and willing to calls us, please do so at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re anonymous, confidential and available 24/7. If you call we can talk about options and resources that are available to you. We can even make conference calls with you to agencies that may be able to provide supportive services. If calling in isn’t possible, please reach us through our live chat program through our website from 430p-1130p (central standard time).

We’re here to listen, here to help.