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    Hi. My name is Sierra and I will be turning 15 in March of 2014. I am having a rough time at home. I fight with my mom everyday and she is always telling me to run away or to get out of her house. I saw a thread on here and it actually inspired me that there was a way to deal with this. I sat down and literally wrote out at least 15 pages of everything that's happened, where I stand, and how I plan on dealing with it. Though, I have no computer access and am currently using a friend's CPU to type up what I can and I am limited on time to do so. I figured that the details should be saved for another time and that I should just say the basics.

    My mom tells me to leave all the time and says life would be easier if I just ran away but every time I attempt to leave, she threatens to call the cops on me and that's really not the best thing as DCF was involved over the summer after a huge fight with my mom that got physical and our case was just closed. My brother said, quote, "You're like knife in my back and I just want to take that knife out and stab you in your forehead." My mom was in the room and she just said to tone it down. I hate all of the hate.

    I have a friend who has always been there and he knows absolutely everything as I would run to him after it happened to talk about everything. He moved over the summer to Tavares and is currently an hour away so I figured I would be a safe distance from home but not unreasonably far like, say, another county or state.

    His parents are both lawyers and offered their home to me. They said that if she tells me to leave, I have every right to go and I should immediately after she says to.

    We've come up with the plan of leaving over the summer since leaving during this school year or during 10th grade of 2014-2015 would only get me in more trouble and if we can manage to work out enough of the situation over the vacation break to the point of legally being able to switch me to Tavares High instead of the current high school I'm attending in Clermont.

    They say the closer to my 16th birthday the better. If we can hold it off until when I turn 16, then we can work everything out and try to get me emancipated which is the overall goal in this mess. If and when the emancipation happens, they have offered their home as my own and treat me as if I were theirs which works out since I am extremely close to him and his siblings. His younger sister constantly asks if I want her to adopt me. Lol. She's 9.

    I really need help with this and the legal side of everything. This really scares me but I honesty cannot take one more second in this house with people who hate me with every ounce of themselves.

    Thank you.

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    Reply: Mom wants me to leave...hard times with family...don't know what to do.

    Hi Sierra –

    You certainly have a lot going on and we appreciate you opening up and telling us a bit about your situation. It sounds like you are going through a lot right now at home and it’s understandable that you are thinking of leaving. You mentioned that your mom is emotionally and at times physically abusive towards you and you feel like there is a lot of hate in the home. We are sorry to hear you are going through this and that she has in the past kicked you out of the home. It’s good to hear you have a safe place to go if you do leave and lots of support from your friend and his family.

    It sounds like the big concerns you have are more legal based and what will happen if you leave. If your mom kicks you out that is neglect on her part and really an issue that could be brought up with CPS. If your mom does kick you out how do you think she will react if you end up going to stay with your friend and his family? The good thing is it sounds like you have some good allies in regards to your friend’s parents being lawyers. They may be able to help a lot in regards to looking more into emancipation or getting people to help advocate for your situation and rights.

    We want you to know if you ever need to talk through your situation more in depth or looking for any further resources or support you can always reach out to the National Runaway Safeline. Our crisis phone line is open 24 hours a day and you can reach us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have an online chat that is available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST daily. If you do have any more specific questions or need additional resources reach out to us anytime. All of our services are completely confidential and anonymous. Take care.
    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

    National Runaway Safeline
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    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      Re: Mom wants me to leave .. hard times with family .. don't know what to do.

      my mom will love me to go to wallmart.

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      • #4
        RE: Re: Mom wants me to leave .. hard times with family .. don't know what to do.

        Hello there -

        Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline, we are more than happy to help you in your current situation. We aren't too sure if this reply has to do with the post above or not. It sounds like you might some specific questions that you want to ask us. It’s hard to talk to just anyone one about what has been going on in your life. It’s very brave of you.

        If you give us a call on our 24/7 fully confidential hotline, at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help answer some of those questions you have and could potentially help you brainstorm a solution to the issues you are having. We also have an online chat service available every night from 4:30-11:30PM CST that is available through our website (www.1800runaway.org) if you don’t feel like calling in to talk on the phone.

        Hope to hear from you soon!
        Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

        National Runaway Safeline
        [email protected] (Crisis Email)
        1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

        Tell us what you think about your experience!
        https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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        • #5
          Hi my name is Nevaeh and I’m 10 years old and my mom is 31 I think she wants me gone cause of Wht she and my sis were doing today

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            ccsmod1 commented
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            Hi Nevaeh! Thanks for contacting us today. It sounds like your situation at home is confusing you, and we understand that it can be scary to feel like your mom or sister do not want you to live at home anymore. We would love to hear what has made you feel this way, and encourage you to call us at 1-800-786-2929. We are here for youth 24/7 to listen and help in any way we can. Best of luck!
            Sincerely, NRS

        • #6
          Hey everyone I know some of you in school might be reading this but i don't care ... So my mom is being literally mean to mean if i don't do one homework she will leave me outside for 10 min she will hit me like 20 times and not care about anything and she will literally choking me for 5 seconds and she will tell me to move with a black family she said that i'm not her son no more that i go to hell and stuff like that so please help me idk how put please help me i want to keep being like this my relationship with my mom is horrible and my mom might get divorced soon so i'm going to try to behave better and do more of my homework.

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          • ccsmod9
            ccsmod9 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now and you mentioned being harmed. We’re sorry you’re going through this. You don't deserve to be hurt in any way. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. You may also be able to report any mistreatment to CPS. Child Help USA 1-800-422-4453 www.childhelp.org is an organization that helps protect minors from being harmed. It may also be a good place to explore options for staying with another family member or someone you trust as far as transferring custody.
            Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. You are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
            If you would like to talk more in detail please chat soon through our website www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button) if you are unable to call in. We unfortunately cannot give advice as we are non-directive. You know your situation best
            We hope to hear from you soon.
            Be safe,
            NRS

        • #7
          Hi . I am a twelve year old boy . I got a demerit from school . I don’t mean it and I am really ashamed . My mom scolded me really badly and she wants me to leave . I don’t know what to do

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          • ccsmod0
            ccsmod0 commented
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            Hi there,
            Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on with your mom and school. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
            While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
            The easiest way to leave home is with your parents' permission. We understand that might be challenging, however, maybe there’s another family member, relative, or a family friend who could help to communicate how you’re feeling to your parents. The second way is through Child Protective Services if safety is a concern. Lastly, you can also look into emancipation options. In most states you need to be at least 16 to be considered and demonstrate that you can support yourself financially and independently. Emancipation often can be a lengthy process and may even cost some money for court fees. We would be happy to look into legal resources if that’s something you are considering.
            We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
            Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). If you would like to look into further emotional support options, you can text with a crisis worker at the National Alliance on Mental Illness 24/7 by texting "NAMI" to 741741.
            If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
            Be safe,
            NRS
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