I'm 23 and my mom is going to kick me out of the house...I have nowhere to go

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My family can't and won't take me in - they side with my mom. I have friends who may be able to take me in, but not on short notice, and not for long...and they live 45 minutes away from where I live. I don't have a job, and I only have about $150...I don't know what to do.

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Re: I'm 23 and my mom is going to kick me out of the house...I have nowhere to go

Hello there,

It sounds like you’re going through a rough time and are presently being kicked out of your mother’s home. We imagine it is stressful to not know where you are going to be living. We do have some adult housing resources in our database, so if we know your city/state we can do a more thorough search. In the meantime, you could check out United Way/211. http://www.211.org/ Not all, but many cities/states offer 211 which is social service directory and many offer their databases online.

There is also Homeless Shelter Directory too. http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/ They offer a starting point while searching for shelters; all you have to do is enter your city/state. Hopefully that gives you a start and we wish you the best of luck.

You can also contact us directly either by calling us 24/7 AT 1-800-RUNWAY (786-2929). Or, we offer Live Chat every day from 4:30 to 11:30pm. Simply click on the red Live Chat button on our home page.

-NRS

[Khuthala]

Kicked out by your mom

I'm.23 I have 2 year old son we have no where to go my mom kicked me of her house

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RE: Kicked out by your mom

Hello There,

Thanks for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It is a great first step to finding the information and support that you may need. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and soon will leave you and your child homeless.
We could definitely try to help find some safe places for you both to stay in by utilizing our database. If you call us at 1800-RUNAWAY we could be able to possibly refer some resources that are in your city and state. If you have internet access, you can also find some resources at this link: http://www.homelessshelterdirectory.org/
We should mention that the resources found on this website are not in any affiliation with us at NRS. The resources in our database are frequently updated and services are verified.

We look forward to hearing from you.

Best Wishes,
NRS

[Guest]

My parents are kicking me out and I’m 17 with no job and I don’t have any friends to live with I also have no money to my name

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Reply: My parents are kicking me out

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts but in general at 17 it may be illegal for your parent’s to do this. We understand how upsetting this must be for you. You might consider contacting the non-emergency number to your local police department for more inforrmation on the law.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS

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[Guest]

I’m 27 and no luck at finding a job and as well as my sister she’s 19 and we live with my mom many reasons why we stay with her still with the age we have but my mom she’s been so mean and wants us out and we have no money and no jobs and I go threw depression I feel hopeless and I have so much stress I cry every night cause I’m so done with so much problems my sister and i need help please help us we need a nice place to live until we get on our feets.

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you are in a difficult situation needing to move out of your mom's house with your sister, but not having the finances to do. It's clear that the stress has really taken a toll on you. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

Unfortunately, our database is limited with adult resources, so we may or may not have a resource in our database that could help house both you and your sister. Please call or chat us: 1-800-RUNAWAY or www.1800runaway.org if you would like us to see what resources we have in your area. You might also reach out to 2-1-1 by calling that 3 digit number or going to www.211.org. They are the United Way information and referral line to all the local shelter and permanent housing resources for adults. You might also ask them if they have any employment assistance programs in the area.

Again, please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like us to look for resources. We truly wish you and your sister the best of luck,

NRS

[Guest]

I'm 18 and just started college, very unwillingly. I have a very strong work ethic but I have no real desire to go to college, but my step-mom's rule is if you don't go to college you cannot live at the house. I am already dreading being forced to go to college, and I need out but I do not have a job yet cause I haven't been hired and I am taking my driving test on September 19th but I do not think my dad would allow me to have my car unless I stay in college.

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

Sounds like you are understandably not wanting to go to college, but your stepmom has made it a rule that you have to go while living in the house. That's really commendably that you have the awareness about what you want. Here at NRS, we truly want to be a support for you during this difficult time.

As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. But unfortunately, your former guardians can legally force you to leave if you are not wanting to follow their house rules. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Since you have been unable to get a job or have reliable transportation so far, you might try to reach out to your informal supports like friends and extended family to see if you can stay with them while you get on your feet. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. Please call or chat us if you would like us to look for resources in your area: 1-800-RUNAWAY or www.1800runaway.org.

We are here to listen and help however we can so do not hesitate to reach out.

Best,

NRS

[Guest]

Hello! I’m having a hard experience at home because my mom keeps criticizing me that I won’t find anything good in the future and call me useless I wanted to runaway but I don’t know if my s/o partner parents will support me as a homeless person

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Hi there,

Thank you for reaching out! It sounds like things have been tough at home, you don't deserve to be treated this way at all. This forum thread starts off with "I'm 23" so we may assume your over 18. Since you are 18 you are considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Even if your significant others parents may not be willing to help, there may be resources around you that you qualify for. Moving is a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It is also helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

Please don't hesitate to reach out via call or live chat if you would like to further discuss some options!

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

hello my mom plans on kicking me out for something i didnt do and i have nowhere to go or family to stay with and i just got a job so i start work this week and dont know what to do

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Hi there,

We're sorry to hear you are in a dilemma with your mom kicking you out and not having a place to stay. We might be able to help you find shelter or a transitional living program in your area. The best way for us to help would be for you to call our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us online via the chat feature on our website: www.1800runaway.org. When you call or chat with us we can talk about whatever's on your mind, what you are going through, and what your best options are. We hope to hear from you soon!

Stay safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I’m 22 my mom threatened to kick me out and I have nowhere to go and she wants me to leave first thing in the morning today so she wants me to pack immediately and I cannot control my behavior, and since she annoyed me I shoved her, which I know is assault but I didn’t do it on purpose but she just constantly annoyed me. So please help I’m broke I need a job. And a car

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Hello There,
Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a really difficult time and we want you to know you are not alone.
We are not legal experts but in some states you cannot be kicked out without a 30 day notice, so what that means is your mom would have to legally evict you. You can learn more about this by researching eviction laws in your state and city.
We can try and help you look for a safe place to go, but in order to do that we would need the gender you identify with, your state and your city. You can chat with us or call us for us to be able to provide shelters. You can also look on National Homeless Shelter Directory.org.
We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions please reach out. We are available 24/7 by phone or by chatting us online.
NRS

[Guest]

I'm 19 And as unprofessional as it sounds, my mothers friend is going to kick me out her house by the end of the month for not working although several people there aren't working anyway, my anxiety makes it difficult for me to casually do the interview process and my mother and sisters were just evicted out of their apartment so we're all living separately. Louisville is not the nicest place to be so I was wondering what else I could do

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Thank you for reaching out to NRS,
We appreciate you reaching out to us at this time. From what we understand it seems as though you have a lot in your life going on right now. The most pressing thing it seems is that you are being kicked out of the home you are currently in. We are sorry to hear that they are kicking you out so quickly. We can understand that it can be hard to find a job, especially when doing one on one interviews can be daunting.

We would love to help in any way we can to get you to a better place. One of the things that NRS offers are Transitional Living Programs or Shelter referrals. These programs typically can be found around your area and are meant to help you get back on your feet, help you find jobs, or even at times help you finish school. Because we do not have more information on your whereabouts we would ask you to please reach out to us either on our chat lines (1800runaway.org) or hotline (800-786-2929) for more specific information.

Again we appreciate that you chose to reach out to us and felt comfortable enough to let us know what is going on. If you are in immediate danger please know you can always call 9-1-1 for more immediate help. We hope to hear from you soon.


NRS

[Guest]

I'm 19 and still living with my mom, she's going to kick me out when she sees that I have failed school. I have no job, no friends, no money, no where to go, and I can't even drive yet. I don't know what to do, I have adhd and other mental health issues so school is very hard for me. I feel so hopeless and I'm really stressing about this.

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Hello,

Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. Im sorry to hear you lack the support you need! I am so happy you reached out to NRS, as we are here to help. We would be happy to provide you with resources like transitional living programs and free counseling programs. We work best with people when we can have a conversation with you. You can always call or chat us to talk about what you are going through and receive some support and perhaps additional options. We provide free, confidential, and nonjudgmental services. Everyone deserves to be respected and loved. Our hotline number is 1-800-786-2929 and you can chat us through this website.

Be safe and good luck,

NRS

[Guest]

I'm an 18 year old and my mom is planning on kicking me out if I don't get accepted into working with her. I truly dislike my mom. I don't have any money. me and her don't have a close bond with eachother. please help me. I don't know where to go after getting kicked out by her. I would go to my aunt's house, but I've lied to her.