I need out

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My mom and I have been fighting so much. Pretty much on an everyday basis. We have so many problems with each other. Recently she has told me and my brother that we are going to be moving to another town which is just going to make my brother and Is lives more difficult because we both go to school and play sports in this town and we are going to continue to do so. But mom wants me to drive back and fourth everyday which is going to be to difficult if I have to go to school, sports and work everyday. I don't want that stress on me, I have enough stress already. I have been with my boyfriend for a very long time and his parents want me to move in with them, but the thing is I'm only 17 and my mother is a little controlling, I don't know what to do. I feel it would be the best choice for me to move in with my bfs family that way I don't have to commute everyday. But I don't know what to do to get my mom to allow me to stay with them. Help?

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Re: I need out

We appreciate you telling us a bit about your situation. It sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment and you are unsure of how to proceed. We are sorry to hear you are going through such a stressful time right now. You mentioned that your mom is currently in the process of making you and your brother move and it sounds like this is going to cause a lot of problems with school, work, etc. You said that your boyfriend and his family are willing to have you stay with them but you don’t think your mom will approve. Have you spoken with your mom at all about this idea or tried to get your boyfriend’s family to speak with her?

You are at a tricky age right now. In most states the age of majority, when you are considered an adult and can make your own decision on where to live, is 18. So there is a possibility your mom could make a runaway report or make you return home. However, there are many states (sometimes it depends on the city or county) that have discrepancies between the age of majority and the age a youth is considered a runaway. For example we often hear that while the legal age of majority is 18, at 17 the local police may no longer take runaway reports or make the youth return home. Sometimes the best thing to do is to contact your local police on a non-emergency line and see if they would take a report or make a youth go back home depending on how close they are to 18.

If you would like to discuss your situation more in depth you can always contact us at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have an online chat that is available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST. All of our services are completely confidential and anonymous but there is always someone here to help you talk through your next steps. Take care.

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My mom and I have been fighting so much. Pretty much on an everyday basis. We have so many problems with each other. Recently she has told me and my brother that we are going to be moving to another town which is just going to make my brother and Is lives more difficult because we both go to school and play sports in this town and we are going to continue to do so. But mom wants me to drive back and fourth everyday which is going to be to difficult if I have to go to school, sports and work everyday. I don't want that stress on me, I have enough stress already. I have been with my boyfriend for a very long time and his parents want me to move in with them, but the thing is I'm only 17 and my mother is a little controlling, I don't know what to do. I feel it would be the best choice for me to move in with my bfs family that way I don't have to commute everyday. But I don't know what to do to get my mom to allow me to stay with them. Help?

Also I live in Washington state. And my boyfriends parents only speak Spanish so they can't really talk to my mom because she only knows a little Spanish. And I'm a little nervous about calling the local police dept. I'm not sure why, but I just get nervous talking/asking the police questions.

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I need out

We appreciate you telling us a bit about your situation. It sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment and you are unsure of how to proceed. We are sorry to hear you are going through such a stressful time right now. You mentioned that your mom is currently in the process of making you and your brother move and it sounds like this is going to cause a lot of problems with school, work, etc. You said that your boyfriend and his family are willing to have you stay with them but you don’t think your mom will approve. Have you spoken with your mom at all about this idea or tried to get your boyfriend’s family to speak with her?

You are at a tricky age right now. In most states the age of majority, when you are considered an adult and can make your own decision on where to live, is 18. So there is a possibility your mom could make a runaway report or make you return home. However, there are many states (sometimes it depends on the city or county) that have discrepancies between the age of majority and the age a youth is considered a runaway. For example we often hear that while the legal age of majority is 18, at 17 the local police may no longer take runaway reports or make the youth return home. Sometimes the best thing to do is to contact your local police on a non-emergency line and see if they would take a report or make a youth go back home depending on how close they are to 18.

If you would like to discuss your situation more in depth you can always contact us at our 24 hour hotline 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We also have an online chat that is available from 4:30p to 11:30p CST. All of our services are completely confidential and anonymous but there is always someone here to help you talk through your next steps. Take care.

I also wanted to know how easy or hard it is to be emancipated if all else fails?

[ccsmod0]

RE: I need out

Hi again,

It's smart of you to explore your options. In terms of emancipation there are a couple of things that you may have to prove. 1. That the petitioner has the ability to manage his or her financial affairs; and 2. that the petitioner has the ability to manage his or her personal, social, educational, and nonfinancial affairs. So basically it looks like you'd have to prove to the court that you are able to take care of yourself. If you want to talk through this is a legal expert you can contact the Division of Children and Family Services at 253-872-2270.

If you'd like to talk more, you can call us at our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or chat with us from 4.30pm-11.30pm Central Time. We look forward to talking or chatting with you.

Best of luck!

NRS