I am 17 and want to live with my mother but my dad has full custody of me.

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I am 17 be 18 in 5 months but I am totally stressed living with him he has mental problems inherited and it affects his mind obviously. He was physucal once when i was in the 2nd grade he in unfair, unjusta nd i just want to leave and I fed up with him and his lams excuses of acting he way he is acting. My hasir starting falling out because of it I grind my teeth at night I developed asthma becuase of it my nerves are shot because of it all of sudden i just start shaking, I can barely sleep at night I toss and turn and he does not take all of that into consideration I tried to tell him how i felt plenty of time for 2 years now but he does not listen he just makes it my fault again. He does not own up to the fact that he has something or alot to do with how i am feeling. I am not the only person that feels this way his wife realizes it his ex-wife my mom realizes it my doctor realizes my dentist and and my pediatrician realizes it. I wanna know what will happen if I runaway. I have somewhere safe to go and I will be taken care of I will finish school and everything will not ge into any trouble with the state or whatever.

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RE: I am 17 and want to live with my mother but my dad has full custody of me.

Hi there,

Thanks for contacting us. Wow, it seems like you’re going through so much right now. We’re sorry that you’re having a tough time and that your dad is treating you like that. You deserve to feel safe at your house. It can be so exhausting when we don’t feel safe or welcome at our own home. It was really smart of you to reach out for some support.

It sounds like you have a lot of people in your life that care for you. We’re glad that there are people that you can depend on during this time. So it seems like you’ve thought about this for some time and have a pretty solid plan put together. That’s great! Here are some questions that you might want to consider:

• How will I survive?
• Is running away safe?
• Who can I count on to help me?
• What are my other options?
• If I end up in trouble, who will I call?
• If I return home, what will happen?

Like we said, it looks like you’ve taken some great steps already! These questions might be helpful to solidify that plan and maybe to start thinking about if things don’t work out.

We’re also here to talk through any other options that you might have. You can call us at anytime at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are completely anonymous and confidential. If calling isn’t your thing, you can chat with us through our website (www.1800runaway.org) from 4.30pm -11.30pm Central Standard Time. We’re looking forward to hearing from you.

It seems like you’ve got a good plan together, with some good support!

Best of luck with everything,

NRS

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My son

My son is in the same kind of situation but i want to take him in but dont want to get in trouble he is scared for me to take it back to court cause when his dad get court papers things get really bad for him he has run away once and the system let him down he told them he was going to hurt his self if he went back to his dads i really need to know how to help him please

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Re: I am 17 and want to live with my mother but my dad has full custody of me.

Hello,
Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.
It sounds like you really want to help your son, we want that too. So let’s see how we can help. You mentioned that you have been to court before but you did not get the results that you wanted. We are sorry to hear that your son feels like the system has let him down. The last thing we want is for him to feel as if there is not hope and to start self-harming. Since there is not much that we can do in regard to him being able to come and live with you one thing that we can offer is emotional support. If you or your son someone to talk to during this difficult time you both are more than welcome to call and talk about how you are feeling. 1-800-RUNAWAY

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Re: I am 17 and want to live with my mother but my dad has full custody of me.

If he was to run away and came to me how much trouble could i get in to im not going to let him be on the street or let him get in to a bad place with his dad i just want to see my son happy and healthy that is what matters to me

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Re: I am 17 and want to live with my mother but my dad has full custody of me.

Hello again,

It sounds like you care a lot about your son and his well-being. Taking him in may pose legal trouble for you depending on the situation. We are unsure of what trouble you would get into because runaway laws and consequences may very in every state. Additionally, it may depend on whether your son's father would press charges against you for harboring him. If you are in violation of any custody agreement, the charges may be decided by the court. It may be best to consult with local law enforcement and a legal aid office. Some counties offer free legal aid through volunteer lawyer programs. If we can provide any resources or further support, please reach out to us by phone or chat.

Best wishes,

NRS