I hate it here and i hate track

[louisiana14trk]

Im a 14 year old boy and i used to love track when i was little. In 7th grade, i trieout for my school track team. I didnt make it and i was disappointed for that day but got over it. I told her that i was done with track and wasnt worried about it anymore. About a month later, she bought me to a AAU track team practice and i told her i didnt want to run anymore, but she made me. We had practice 3 days a week: Sunday, Tuesday, and Thursay and Saturday(occasional). I ran the whole summer. When track ended, she asked me if I wanted to do track next year.
I told her it didnt matter what i said because she was going to make me do what she wanted. She said it was up to me. I told her i didnt want to run. She said i didnt have to run.
About a week later, she told me these exact words, "Im gonna bust your bubble now, you running track next year." We fussed and fought for weeks and she hooked on making me do track.
Besides just track, my mom and grandfather fuss at me and my grandmother for everything. My dad hasnt had a real conversation with my sister since she was little if ever and doesnt care. She's 20 now and pretty much the same way as him. Thats the way its starting to go with me and him. We have little meaningless conversations. Every time we talk, its usually about the same things.
I almost ran away before but i cant leave my grandmother with my mom and grandpa. Ive tried to kill myself more than many times. Mostly with pills.
Now i feel my only option of escaping track and my mom is running away. Ive checked all Louisiana laws and it would be my first time running away. I'd be bought back to her if caught. Ive planned my way out, when ill do it, where ill go, and i know everything ill need. In 2 months, track is starting again. I have a set day when ill leave. I plan on leaving the city and starting fresh with a completely new identity. If no one can change her mind im gone. i dont want to leave my grandmother,but i have to if my mom makes me do track.

[ccsmod5]

RE: I hate it here and i hate track

Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us. Sounds like you’ve been trying to deal with these issues for quite a while. You seem to be struggling with how your mom forces you to do things that she initially acts like it’s up to you and then does otherwise. That’s gotta be rough but we’re here to help and hear you out.

How did you eventually deal with your mom doing this to you? Sounds like this was a while ago and even though you have considered running from home before but never acted on it, you lived with this for quite a while? Did the attempted suicide incidents have anything to do with this?

Sorry to hear that you went through that and that you continue to go through this struggle with your mom where she forces you to do things you don’t want to do. How would you feel about talking to someone about this? Like, does anyone know that your mother treats you like this? If someone that you trusted (relative, teacher, counselor, friend’s parent) knew about this, do you think they would support you in trying to figure out what to do about your mom treating you like this? Sometimes when we confide in people and ask for support, we can find ways to deal with others that are treating us a certain way. Is this something that you think you can consider before leaving home? You said something about “if no one can change her mind” which sounds like you still have hope that someone can help your mom listen to you because you’re right, based off of your story, she’s not listening to you.

If you’d like to explore this some more and talk about options, please feel free to call our anonymous and confidential hotline at 1800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We’re available to you 24/7 and we can see how else we can help. If you can’t call, email us at [email protected] or continue your bulletin here. Just let us know what you’d like help with.

Best of luck,
NRS

[louisiana14trk]

I hate track and hate it here

Ive talked to my school counselor but she told me to talk to my mom and listen to what he has to say. She also said it sounds like i dont want to do track because she is making me. The counselor is no help to me at this point.
I deal with my mom by usually ignoring her. I stay as far away from her as possible at home and barley have real conversations with her.
The suicide attempts have everything to do with this. That's going to happen if running away fails.
Im not much of an open person when it comes to stuff like this.
Ive looked up getting emancipated from her, but in Louisiana, you have to be 15.

[ccsmod5]

RE: I hate it here and i hate track

Hey,
It’s hard for us to figure out what kind of help you’re looking for but we’ll give it a shot…

Seems like you are ready to leave home and have a plan. We’re not here to talk you out of anything or into anything. We can however, ask about your plan: what is it? If you’re 14, how are you planning on getting/maintaining safe housing, food and health care? Will you keep going to school? How long do you think the money will last? Those are all pretty important things to consider when making such a big decision.

Now, you seem to be going through something very intense and you say that if something doesn’t work out, you’ll attempt suicide again. We don’t want you to feel that way because you should know that if your school counselor isn’t any help and neither are we, the support doesn’t stop there. There are counselors OUTSIDE of school that are better equipped to handle these family dramas with you. There is a VERY GOOD suicide hotline that can sort this stuff out with you and if you ever get the opportunity to call us, we might be able to have a better idea as to what is available to you.

Would you be willing to call? We ask because at some point, it becomes difficult to advocate over email/bulletin and having a conversation about all of this might be better. We know you’re not too comfortable with this kind of stuff but we’re here to explore everything.

Here is that suicide hotline:
National Suicide Hotline
1800-273-TALK (8255)

That might not be exactly what you’re looking for but maybe you can tell us what that is: if you could tell us what made you reach out to us today, what would you say that reason was?

Remember, we’re here to listen, here to help. Call us at 1800-RUNAWAY so we can figure out how we can be there for you.

NRS

[louisiana14trk]

Runaway

I have plenty of directions to go to different places all around Louisiana. I have family who although they know they could get in trouble for harboring a runaway, would let me stay there for at least one night without saying anything. If the family thing does work out, food and money most likely wont be a problem. I could pass for 15 which is the minimum age to work and get a part-time job. Ill probably quit school and get my GED wherever I end up.
I might call the suicide hotline if i need to.

[ccsmod5]

RE: I hate it here and i hate track

Thanks for responding so quickly. It's good to hear that you can rely on so many people. Sometimes we just need the support of one person here and there but when we have a handful of people that we can turn to, that might be our safety net.

If you find that at ANY POINT you need out help, we're here for you. When and if you decide to call, the details of your call are kept confidential and we'll try and help out as best as we can.

Best of luck.

[Unregistered]

re:running away

Hi your worried abou tthe law the you can go to califforna where its legal to runway and no one can make you go back home. I know because i checked the laws. You can also get a job in calforna.

[ccsmod2]

Thank you for reaching out to us. Unfortunately, we aren’t legally trained here so we wouldn’t be able to tell you specifically what the laws are regarding runaways in different states. Generally speaking though, running away is considered to be illegal if you are under the age of 18. If you do leave home without permission, your parents may have the option to call the police and file a runaway report. Again, we can only speak in general terms, but running away is usually considered to be a status offense. If the police were to locate you, they could bring you home or contact your parents to let them know where you are.

If you would like to talk further or have more questions, please give us a call. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) and we are available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

We look forward to hearing from you.

~NRS