i just want to run away and never come back!

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Well where to start, my parents recently got into problems last friday, the ended everything and my parents are no longer together, my mom and are constantly arguing because the same day her and my dad broke up and left each other she tried to bring another guy around instead of focusing on us (meaning me my sisters and my brother) she doesn't have a job. besides the fact me and my mom got into it nasty and she hit me i called the cops and they said took her side and said she was "disciplining me" when she punched me in my face...... And wants me to make my quit my job i am 16 years old about to turn 17 in a month in a half from now, my question is. can i move out of my house when i turn 17, i'm so desperate to move out you guys don't understand how my mom is she's never cared about me. And Always has put a guy before me, I'm so tried of it i wanna move on with my life and be some one in life and i cannot continue the negatively i just want to be happy and clearly I'm not me and my mom argue everyday and she hits me, i just want to know can i move out at 17 in the state of Texas?
i am really considering running away. I hate the way i feel. And my other question is can my mom make me actually quit my job right now? Please don't tell me it'll be best for me to just get along with my mom or just too talk to a relative cause no on understands me...... I just need help, please. I want to run away.

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re: i just want to run away and never come back!

Hi:

Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Switchboard. We are sorry to hear the way things are going at home with your parents. It seems like you are tired of the argument s and being hit by your mother. It sounds like you would prefer to move as soon as you can to avoid that and create a better life for yourself. Since we do not have a legal background, it is hard for us to answer if you can legally move out of the house at 17 in the state of Texas. Laws also vary by state. In most states, the age of majority is 18 (legally an adult) and some allow for you to move out legally at 17 but that varies. It may be helpful to contact your local nonemergency police hotline to try and get that question answered. In addition to contacting your local police, legal aid organizations may be able to answer that question.

We hope the information provided helps. If you need to contact us again, feel free to do so. We are available 24/7 and our hotline is toll-free and can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929).

~NRS

[Guest]

I want to runaway better yet i want to end my life i do not want to be on this earth anymore it always seems like nobody loves me or i am never going to fit in and nobody will never be my friend , to be honest i dont care if i have friends but to not and to have them talking about me it hurts alot, they say words dont mean and thing or that they could never hurt you but i think otherwise everyone is different everyone has different feelings, I am tired of harming myslef but its is like i cant stop even when i am really trying there is always a voice telling me your not good enough your never going to be someone or never going nowhere in life , i know its the devil talking to me but its like i hear him the most , isnt supposed to be the opposite arent i supposed to hear the good voice the voice who is positive ? why can i be perfect? my mom says nobody is perfect but it seems untrue i see people everyday who seem really perfect why cant that person be me? WHY AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH? i can never keep a boyfriend when i think i am doing right i am not why cant i be perfect? i remember a time where i almost lost the most important person in my life my mother, my heart was broken that really pulled me down as soon as i was almost up yes this happend more than once can you imagine what was going through my head .. i still replay the bad thoughts in my head today . i really want them to stop but they never do , I am honestly tired of my dad coming and going out of my life i want him to stay he makes me happy , i wish i could visit him in prison i guess thats just how the world goes , life really is unfair and i cant control it even thought i really wish i could , high school is hard kids are mean or should i say girls one minute there my friend next there my enemy i dont know who really loves me and is going to be here for me alot of people say im playing (victim) but they really dont know what i have been through but thats not the half of it i wish i could go back to the night where in my head i was screaming stop, no, ! i wouldnt wish rape on anyone and i wouldve never thought it would happen to me yeah in the black family my moms says no telling the police even though it happend i was confused at first i still am it hurts me to see the person who raped me i see them everyday oh yeah what about my family member the cousin i always loved tried to touch me as a child i swear i have been through alot and i knew it was time for me to just give up when i scared 15 slices on my forearm i had ENOUGH i dont trust anyone i dont talk to anyone about this i cant , i would break down before i could tell anyone how my life has been , its hard for a person like me to keep friends keep family and stay happy i try it seems impossible . you probaly dont care about this , i just wanted you to know my story , im running away .

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Hey thank you for reaching out to us, it means a lot to us that you are willing to look for help with this and it seems like you are going through so, so much. It seems like you have a lot of bad things going on and they just keep coming at you instead of stopping, so it’s understandable to be frustrated with how life is treating you. You seem to have a few things happening at once so to summarize you have been raped, suffer verbal abuse at school from peers, your dad whom you care for is not consistently in your life, and you are self-harming and considering ending your life. Frankly any single one of these is incredibly difficult to deal with on their own, and yet you have been dealing with all of them at once. We want you to know that yes we do care about you and your situation. Your situation is honestly heartbreaking and we hope that we can help you through this.

First off if you are considering suicide, or you feel like these thoughts are escalating please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or visit their website at suicidepreventionlifeline.org. They specialize in helping those who have similar thoughts to what you have written to us. Which again is so brave of you to reach out for this help. There is also a community for helping with self-harm called ‘To Write Love On Her Arms’, it is online at twloha.com. They aren’t a hotline like the Suicide Prevention Lifeline but is more community focused on connecting you with others who have been through some of what you have. Sometimes just having someone who can understand even a part of your feelings can be a release.

Next we will address how we could help you with dealing with rape. It is so awful that you have experienced this. Like you mentioned that you couldn’t wish it upon anyone, and we wish it didn’t happen at all. It seems like this may have been someone close to you which is even harder having to be constantly reminded of it. We do know of some people who can help deal with these emotions, they are also hotlines. One is the Rape Abuse Incest National Network (or RAINN for short) at 1-800-656-4673 or at rainn.org. The other is Child Help at 1-800-422-4453 or childhelp.org. Both of them specialize in abuse and might provide you with some help getting rid of that devil on your shoulder whispering in your ear.

Last is it seems like you are having trouble with self-esteem and interacting with peers/friends. You mentioned that your mom has said nobody is perfect and yet it seems like others aren’t going through any of the problems that keep happening to you and they seem like there are no problems in the world they have to deal with or can’t deal with. That’s only what it seems like though. If you look closely enough at anyone that “perfection” will break down and you will see their problems. Yes for some their problems won’t be anywhere near the scale of your own, but by overcoming the problems you have now that will make you stronger than any of the rest of them. Perfection is something we work toward, but not something we can achieve. Just like how you may not ever get rid of your bad thoughts but you can get better and better at ignoring them, allowing those good thoughts to show through more. Also high school can be so hard, especially regarding friends or bullies, some of which can be both at the same time. Words do hurt, and feeling isolated while seeing others form their own groups is terrible. You can’t control what others are going to say about you, but you can control your reaction to what is happening. In order to grow you may need to embrace new or old friends, have you considered trying to switch schools? This may provide you a new start to build new relationships and get out of bad ones.

You are so brave for having reached out and admitted what your life has been so far to us. It seems like you have so much going on that counseling would be a benefit to you. We have resources for that but would need to know your city and state. In addition if you just need someone to talk to, who won’t be judgmental and cares about you, we are available 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929. Hopefully this reply can help you out, because we really do care and we want you to feel safe at home and in your own skin. You don’t deserve what you have been through and we hope this can be a step in a positive direction for you.

-NRS

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All my life I been treated like a puppe... and it’s sad because she says she do a lot for me when she really. Doesn’t... I’m nothing in this world. I just want to be happy. She will only see me as one thing and that’s it. I just wanna show her that I’m an adult now and I’m not a kid anymore and you can’t control my life. My life is my life to live not yours. But she won’t let me live it for some reason... I just wanna make myself happy for one I wanna put my feelings first and not everyone’s else before me..... I just wanna be happy and figure life out my self without always having to be a remote controller being controlled

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Reply: All my life I been treated like a puppe...

Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We would like to be of assistance to you if we can. It is times like these that would be nice to have a listening ear. It is also important that you remember to exercise self- care. You show some by reaching out to NRS. Good for you.
We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat so that we might learn a little more about your situation and how we might assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Take care,
NRS
We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

[Guest]

Why are people so selfish? Why are people so mean? It's like they can't even try to have sympathy for someone who has been through so much. No one ACTUALLY cares about you. People are so fake and selfish. They always want praise and are not genuine. I dont understand why God put me on this earth. I was molested by 4 different men from the age of 4 to 7. My parents were always so ignorant to so many things happening in my life. I have had many miscarriages. Not being able to even have children makes me feel more like a piece of crap. It's like honestly, why am I here?? To get molested? To have parents who never understood you and never helped you with your life? To get my Hope's up of being a mom and then have miscarriages? WHY AM I HERE??.....

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Hello –

Thank you for contacting us here at the National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes great courage to reach out. We are sorry to hear about the way you have been treated. No one should have to suffer through the misfortunes you have been forced to deal with. I think it speaks volumes that you are still fighting for a better future for yourself.

Sometimes it can feel like there is little hope for things to get better in our lives. But reaching out and asking for help is usually the first step towards making things better. It seems like you have a lot of courage to fight through your troubles. It can appear as though everyone is bad, especially when you have suffered so much and had such little help from you parents. However, we can assure you good people are out there. There are countless resources and organizations who are wanting to help you.

A couple resources that may be helpful are the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-422-4453 or the Rape Abuse Incest National Network at 1-800-656-4673. You can call them anonymously to learn about the abuse reporting process, or directly report abuse to this line. They are a good resource for talking through your options given what you have gone through and what you deal with at home.

If you would like to discuss your situation further, there is always someone at the National Runaway Safeline to discuss. We can be reached on our hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or if you are more comfortable we have a chat service as well that is 24/7.

We hope the information provided helps. Remember we are available 24/7 and can be toll-free reached at the number listed above. We are confidential, anonymous, and non-direct.

Best Wishes
~NRS

[Guest]

I really appreciate this forum, let me lead with that. And then I’m so sorry for everyone here and if you're wishing to run away I hope you get the best runaway place and meet with the best runaway people. People who treat you way better than how your family treats you, people you'll not have a problem sharing with people who will never betray you or call the cops on you and most importantly have at one point felt the same way you felt and have understood why you have done what you have done. And if you are wishing to commit suicide I hope you get a breakthrough, one so big that even the people who have led you to such a position will swallow their saliva and never lift a tongue to say anything about you ever again. Us young people are always suffering from something and especially if our parents are the problem it’s as if no one can believe you. I’ll share my story another day. But on the bad days I hit walls and I hope to find a way to completely detach from everyone who has ever hurt me including my parents. And no amount of money will bring me back to this home that I am in now. It’s not a wonder to see how when people are old and alone they speak with so much bitterness because they thought the people they hurt will never find a way to flee from them. And most importantly they cannot buy someone with their money because everyone will have already grown up and had their own money.

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Hello,
Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like you have had some disappointments and frustrations possibly with people close to you. NRS is here to listen and here to help.

We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Take care,
NRS

[Guest]

If really i have a choice, i decided to pack all my clothings in my luggage and i.will leave for good. I will run away to a very far place. Now i just go shopping to calm down my anger

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Hello There,

Thank you so much for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time and we want you to know that you are not alone.

We know you said that you have decided to run away, and we want you to know safety is the priority. If you need help looking for a shelter or transitional living program please reach out to us and we can do our best to help you.

If you would like to talk more about what is going on please chat with us or give us a call. We are available 24/7 to help and provide support. Best of luck!
NRS

[Guest]

If really i had a choice i will pack all my clothings in my luggage, i will take all my stuff and i will leave for good and never go back

Meanwhile my way of releasing my anger is i will wear my baby-g watch tightly, take my backpack and i will go shopping

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Hello,
Thanks for reaching out to us. We are so sorry to hear that things at home have gotten so tough. It sounds like would leave if your home if you could. We certainly cannot tell you what to do, but we can share some general info to help you decide whether running away is the right choice for you.

We are not legal experts, but from what we know, you are allowed to leave home if you are considered a legal adult in your state. If you are considered a minor in your state and you leave without consent, your parent or legal guardian can file a runaway report with your local police department. Although each police department chooses how to handle runaway reports, if they do find a missing youth, they typically bring the youth back to their parent or legal guardian. The best way to find out how your local police might handle a runaway report is to reach out to your local legal aid agency or the non-emergency number for your local police department.

If you have additional questions, or you just want to talk to someone about what is going on that makes you want to leave, please feel free to reach out to us. We will do our best to support you in staying safe as you explore your options. You can reach us 24/7 by phone at 1.800.RUNAWAY (786-2929) or via chat by visiting us at www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button). We are here to listen, here to help. Stay safe!
-NRS

[Guest]

Im yelled at i get beat up i do all the chores my brother calls me the little princess i wanna runaway or commit suicide i have it planned out the only problem is i want a future plz help me im a 12 year old girl

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Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on at home and with your brother. It sounds like you’re quite overwhelmed by things at home right now. It sounds like you’re fearing that the situation may end in suicide if things don’t change. Your safety and well-being is important. If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255); www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org is also a great resource to reach out to in addition to our crisis services.

Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.

If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe and stay strong,

NRS

[Guest]

Everyone had anger management. I will wear my baby g watch tightly, take my backpack and i will go out shopping for 6 hours.

But one day i over angry, i will pack all my clothings and all my stuff and leave for good

[ccsmod0]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe, NRS

[Guest]

Hi I'm 14 and all I do is work and get treated like I'm nothing can I run away at age 14 in North Carolina

[ccsmod13]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.

While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I wanted to pack all my clothes and leave home permanantly. Please do not stop me. Just let me leave

[ccsmod15]

Hi there,

Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

We hope to hear from you soon.

Be safe,
NRS

[Guest]

I am 28. I'm now an adult to make a decision on my own. As i can be independent on my own, i will pack my clothes, wear my baby-g watch tightly, take my backpack and leave home

[ccsmod15]

As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

[Guest]

I am 28. I'm now an adult to make decision on my own. One day i will pack my clothes and leave. I want to be independent on my own and i don't want to rely on my parents. I choose to leave is not because of freedom but is independent

[ccsmod15]

Thank you for reaching out to NRS. It’s very understandable that you would want to be independent from your parents. It’s a big decision to leave home and take on the additional responsibilities of being independent, and we want to help you think through all of your options. It would be helpful to speak with you to learn more about your situation, so we can better assist. You can reach out to us either by phone to our hotline at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY) or through live chat via this website. We’re here 24/7 and hope to hear from you soon.