my mom is making my life horrible

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lemme tell you a lil bit about me... im a girl who turned 13 last month. my dad got out of prison recently and ive been staying (not living) with him to avoid my mom.

we lived on the streets before, then in a building with no power/gas/water, then stayed with these random people, you know, we were very poor. we still are poor but at least we have a roof above our heads now and im really thankful for that... but anyway, she was so nice to me! we didn't spend time together that much, but when we did, she was sooo nice and happy to me! our relationship used to be so wonderful..

well, my stepdad is abusive and my mom is fed up with him so she sent him back to lasvegas to "get his head straight and he'll come back in a few months". i miss him so much. but he's not gonna come back because shes been cheating on him for about a year (thats when she started being really mean) and he doesn't know and she's gonna stall him coming back for a long time... every since a year, she's been starving herself to get skinny for this FREAKING JERK who only likes skinny girls, she's been acting like a... and that makes me feel horrible to say that about my own mom but its true... she's been verbally abusing me and my brother and sometimes she'll even slap us.. slapping part don't bother me it's just her saying really mean things... every time i go home she screams at me and says i need to lose weight (i'm 93 pounds btw, how much more skinnier can i get??!!?)..

well i'm fed up with it, every time i make her food & try to get her to eat she screams at me and calls me overweight, and i'm lazy, and i'm too shy around the boys.. i can't take it anymore!!!!!!!!!! so i'm going to run away, my friend says she'll run away with me and she knows who we can stay with in because a lot of her friends live there. but, i know this is stupid and i dont want to do it. i dont know what to do. i feel like killing myself or running away. please help me....

PS ive tried going to therapy but my mom says no because i'll "complain about her"

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Re: My mom is making my life horrible

Hello,

We thank you for contacting National Runaway Switchboard to share your experience with us. You are very brave to tell us about your situation and to get support. It sounds like you are dealing with a lot on your plate right now. You deserve to feel safe in your own home. It is not fair that you are slapped or verbally abused. Your mom seem to be struggling with her own issues but that is not an excuse for how you are treated.

Although we are confidential and anonymous we are also mandated reporters. You seem to be describing verbal and emotional abuse. We do not define abuse nor do we investigate it. However, we can report abuse within your region or state. Generally, someone may come out to look into what is happening in your home. We cannot guarantee the outcome but the goal is usually to help keep you safe. We are concerned for your safety also.

It sounds like you have given running away some thought but you are unsure of what to do. This is not an easy situation. You seem to have somewhat of a plan. What we try to do is work out safe options with you. Running away is not generally considered a crime but harboring is and may lead to a misdemeanor offense on the folks who house you. We hope you can give us a call or hold onto our number just in case you needed shelter or additional resources. We have a database wtih resources to help you when you are in need. We are also all trained the same way to support you emotionally.

We are concerned for your safety as noted but we are also wondering about your thoughts of suicide. What you ever tried to commit suicide before? We can provide a listening ear if you need an outlet if you wish to talk more indepth about this issue. As we are an agency dedicated to your safety and are here to provide you with resources we can to point you to the National Suicide Hotline at 1800-273-8255 (TALK). They are more prepared to help you out with this issue you are struggling with. However, they can track you from where you are calling in case they need to send someone out to help you. We do not have ways to track you. We just need to know how we can help.

We hope you can find some time to give us a call in case you leave or stayed home. If you stayed home we can continue to talk about ways to remain safe. If you leave we can talk about resources and ways to survive. We cannot talk you into or out of running away. We are here to listen but we cannot give direct advice. We hope you can call us to discuss some options directly. We hope this info has been helpful and you contact us again soon over the phone. Stay strong.

-NRS