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  • #91
    I am 18 in Georgia can I move out without permission?

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out! You ask a great question. Since you are 18 you are considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving is a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It is also helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

  • #92
    Do I need my guardian permission if I'm 18 or can I just leave because I have a place to stay with my aunt

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      Hey there,
      Thanks for reaching out to NRS, we appreciate it. It sounds like you’re wondering at what age you’re legally allowed to leave your home. At 18, you’re considered an adult (in most states, in Alabama you can’t move out of your parents home till you’re 19). Being 18, means you’re able to decide where you want to live, it sounds like you’re wanting to live with your aunt. That should be fine, we also offer to call out to call out to local police with youth to find out about their laws!
      Don’t hesitate to call us and we can talk through living options. We’re open 24/7 on our safeline and we also have a chatting service via our website.
      Stay safe, NRS

  • #93
    I am 18 and plan on moving this Sunday I haven't told my guardian yet because I don't want to cause conflict so can I just up and leave or should I leave a letter

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to us for help. Since you are over 18, you are considered a legal adult. We are not legal experts, however in general it is legal for you to move out if you choose to. Your former guardian cannot report you as a runaway or prevent you from moving out. It is understandable that you don't want to cause conflict, however unless it would be unsafe, you may consider telling them you are planning on moving out. They cannot stop you from leaving, however they could file a missing person's report with the police if they don't know where you are. If they do know that you moved out on your own and know where you went, the police will not take a missing person's report or become involved. Leaving a note or talking to them about where you are going are both options.Moving out on your own is a huge step, and we are happy to help support you in any way that we can. We can help you find resources, talk through your options, and come up with a plan to deal with your situation and stay safe. Please don't hesitate to give us a call or chat with us online. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

  • #94
    I am 18 and wants to move with my aunt but my grandad is over protective and thinks I should stay

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    • ccsmod1
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      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to us for help. At the age of 18, you are legally allowed to decide where you want to live. If you want to move in with your aunt, your granddad can't prevent you from doing that legally. You may want to make sure that your aunt is willing to take you in if your grandfather objects. While you are considered a legal adult at the age of 18, moving out on your own can still be a big step. You may want to think about how you expect your granddad to react. If you rely on him for financial support, health insurance, tuition for school, or anything else, he does not have an obligation to provide that now that you are 18. Having a plan for how you would survive and support yourself can be really helpful. We can help talk through your options and help you make a plan to deal with your situation and stay safe. Don't hesitate to call us any time!

  • #95
    I don't know what to do I feel so trapped. My family is extremely religious and don't let me do anything other than go to school and come back. They even threatened to take that away and make me live with my father in Iraq and be homeschooled. I hate how much they've destroyed me with physical and emotional abuse I want to leave at 18 but it's so much more complex I can't just do that. In my home you don't move out until you're married and I don't want to be married off to some random man like my sister. I want my own life and my own career but how I do that . I want to run away at 18 but with what money, my parents don't let my older siblings get jobs and they're in college. There is no freedom whatsoever ever until I'm married off. What do i do

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    • #96
      Reply: I don't know what to do I feel so trapped.

      Hello,
      Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

      We appreciate you sharing your situation with us.
      Some situations can be overwhelming making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.
      We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
      It sounds like you would prefer to move out of your parent’s house.
      The issue may be getting your parent’s to agree with this idea. Maybe it’s something you would want to talk more about.

      We would be glad to hear you out and perhaps explore some options with you.
      We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.

      Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.
      NRS is here to listen and here to help.
      We hope to hear from you soon.

      Take care,
      NRS

      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
      [email protected] (Crisis Email)
      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      • #97
        I'm in a sticky situation.


        I'm 20 years old. I'm currently enrolled in my last class at my community college before I get my associates degree. Before it transferred to this college, I attended another one 2 hours away from home. I had a family issue and I had to move back home a few weeks ago after being on my own for about 2 years. Ever since I moved back home I've been unhappy, But i have no reason to be. My parents are very loving and supportive, but a part of my feels trapped. Personally, I did not want to move back home.. I enjoyed my independence and freedom and I really do miss it. I don't want to runaway but I also don't want to be home anymore. I don't know what to do..
        Last edited by ccsmod4; 08-24-2017, 03:06 AM.

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        • #98
          Reply: im 20 years old.

          Hello,
          Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

          We appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on.
          Some situations can be disappointing and even upsetting thus making things uncertain about what to do or where to turn.
          We understand and we want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
          We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance.

          If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.
          Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org.
          Again tell us what it is you would like us to help you with and we will be happy to explore some options with you.

          We hope to hear from you soon.

          Take care,
          NRS

          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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          • #99
            i live in NY and eager to leave


            I'm 18 years old as of May 2017 and i live at home with my father, stepmother, stepsister and half brother, i am not physically abused but I'm mentally abused my boyfriend constantly tells me how it isn't right cause they do the most and go over the line way to much and its not healthy for me and hes right, I'm currently enrolled in a community college here under my fathers taxes and money i believe. this will be my first year at college but i want to move out my living situations are not so great at home (i don't want to go into great detail) but i do all the chores in the house i constantly get yelled at for things i have no control of. my stepmother (they are not married but it makes it easier to talk about) she sabotages me constantly and is always complaining to my father about things i didn't even do and hes so wrapped around her stupid finger he believes her over me. Hes always trying to do everything for her and her kids but forget I'm his child before any of them i used to think its a jealousy thing but its not they buy them clothes, phones, school products etc. and i get nothing i have to get things for my self i basically do everything for my self I'm in the process of looking for a job so i can make my own money and buy my own things for my self since they don't my boyfriend and his family said i can live with them till we both move out in the next year or 2. but the only thing that is really holding me back is that if i decide to move out what happens with college? can my father take me out and if so what can i do i don't have a job or any money. i just need help and advice (im unsure if this went through before so im sending it again)

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            • ccsmod10
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              Hey there,

              Thanks for reaching out to NRS. We appreciate the courage and telling us a bit about what’s been going on at home. We hope to help in any way we’re able to.

              It sounds like home life has been really stressful, we’re so sorry that you’ve been treated so poorly. Abuse of any kind is never okay. Your boyfriend is right about how the treatment isn’t right. We’re glad to hear that he’s been a good support for you. It sounds like school is making the situation complicated, regarding your dad paying for it. You may want to speak with your schools financial advisor to see if there’s any way you can get loans, if you do decide to move out. We’re not financial experts, but the advisor should be able to give you tips and help you with a plan. It may be hard to financially put yourself through school, but it isn’t impossible. Since you’re 18, you are definitely able to move out of your dad’s home without any problems regarding laws. You mentioned your boyfriend’s family is okay with you moving in with them, that’s great! Finding a job is a great step to being independent, it sounds like you’ve thought this through and is handling the situation very maturely.

              If there’s any resources you think we could help you with, don’t hesitate to reach out to our safeline. We’re open 24/7 and we also have a chatting service via our website (however those hours are restrictive). You’re not alone in this, and again, we’re here to help in any way we can!

              Be well, NRS

          • I want to leave my home my dad constantly bullies me and ruins my life as wel as threatens to know my teeth down my throat I'm a 18 year old man that has been bullied by his own father his who life and wants out of it completely but we work at the same place and I'd have to quit there if I left I need help but his economy has screwed me so hard I have no options no one is hiring in my area and I'm at a loss with everything please help me

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            • ccsmod10
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              Hi there,

              Thanks for reaching out to us and posting on our forum! We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation and we hope our response will be helpful.

              It’s definitely understandable that you’d want to get away from your dad. It sounds like he is very abusive towards you, you never deserve to be treated that way. You mentioned not having a lot of resources in your area, it sounds like a very stressful situation. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. They allow youth to stay in school and complete their goals, while they're living there.

              We’re here to help you with your next life transition, you’re not alone in this. If you’d like help planning and finding resources, please call in. Our safeline is open 24/7, so we’re always a call away.

              Be well, NRS

          • My girlfriend is sick and needs constant visits to the hospital and specialists, needs to be getting shots, pills, but she is 18, my girlfriend ran away and came to my house last night, today morning her mom called and is making her go back telling her if my parents want problems with the police, that because she is sick she can not be alone until 21, is this true and can she call the cops?

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            • ccsmod1
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              Hi there,

              Thank you for reaching out to us and sharing your situation. It sounds like a very challenging situation with your girlfriend’s health and living situation. It sounds like you are helping to take care of a lot of the different health needs for your girlfriend and we at NRS are here to talk to help discuss options for continued support for you and your family.

              To answer your initial questions, generally speaking in the US if you are over the age of 18 you are able to leave home without legal consequences. There are exceptions to this and every situation is handled differently so we would be able to guess the specifics of your case. One exception that may apply given your girlfriend’s health history would be if her parents went to court and obtained extended guardianship or conservatorship which would extend their status as her guardian beyond the age of 18. If this was the case then there could be legal consequences for her leaving home and for your family.

              We are here 24/7 over the phone at 1-800-786-2929 to provide resources and help discuss your options. We hope to hear from you soon.

              Best of Luck,
              NRS

          • I'm 18 years old and I have to leave home. I dont have a job, money, car or driving skills. I don't have anything to help me live through this life alone but I need to get out of my mother's house. She's been forcing me to leave and she's doing everything she can to throw me out or commit suicide. Please help

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            • ccsmod7
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              Hello there thanks for reaching out. Sounds like your mom is forcing you out to leave without somewhere to go, and this is having a huge toll on you with making you think about suicide as an option. That seems incredibly stressful and you so deserve to make it through this difficult time.

              Your life has infinite value, and there are resources out there for you. You should not have to go through this alone. If you are feeling suicidal, it might help to talk to someone close about how you are feeling. You might also reach out to the National Suicide Hotline for additional support at 1-800-273-8255 or www.suicidepreventionhotline.org. You can also call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY we are here for you 24/7 365 if you ever need to talk.

              If you haven't already, you might talk to friends and extended family members to see if you can stay with them while you are working towards getting income. If you call or chat us, we can look in your area to see if there are transitional living programs where you could go. These are longer stay shelters for older teens and young adults to work on their individual skills including job skills and educational resources. If you are looking for an emergency adult shelter, you might look to see if there are any near you at www.homelessshelterdirectory.org. If you call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY, we can help call out to shelters for you.

              Please do not hesitate to call us so we can call out to housing resources with you, or if you just need to talk. We truly want to be there for you.

              Best,

              NRS

          • almost 17 and wanting to leave when i turn 18

            Is this advisable? I'm so sick of my family situation and I really hate everyone I live with. Like my parents, not my baby brothers and sisters. I feel like I haven't been able to live my life at all, and now I just have to suffer one more year until I'm 18 and i can move in with my friends family. If I did this, what things would I have to do? I understand getting a job, etc . but can I just leave my house and take my possessions? dO I need to file a new place of residency, and will I have to fill out any forms? I want the change to be flawless. I really cannot stand living at my home it's been a struggle for the last 12 years since I was taken from my mother's side of the family (a drug user) to live with my biological father and his fiance and two daughters. I'm not allowed to go to church or see my mom's family or have friends or go anywhere and I'm depressed all the time. I almost hanged myself a while ago but those thoughts aren't in my head anymore. I just want to know what responsibilities and legal things I will have to do if I want to move out my 18th birthday. Are my parents able to stop me? Also I currently do not have my birth certificate or ss card and I turn 17 in a week. the reason I don't have my birth certificate is because my mom wrote down someone elses name on it when i was born, and we never got it when I changed families, so my bio. father and I went to the notary over a year ago to try and get it but we put his name on the request and the pa dept. of vital records or whatever isn't giving it to us. Need advice.

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            • ccsmod10
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              Hi there,

              Thanks for reaching out to NRS! We appreciate you sharing a bit about your situation and we understand that it takes courage. We are here to help in any way we are able to, however, we are non-directive. So we’re unable to give out advice.

              It sounds like your life was turned upside down after being taken from your mother’s family. It’s understandable why you’re wanting to get out of that controlling environment as soon as possible. It sounds like you have had to be very isolated since your dad isn’t letting you see your friends or go to church. You did mention that you have tried to end your life before, and your safety is extremely important to us. We’re so relieved that you didn’t take your life, your life has worth and you’re almost 18! If those thoughts ever come back and are getting to be too overwhelming, please don’t hesitate to call 911. If you need help calling, we can do it with you. We are also here for you 24/7 and there is also the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (800) 273-8255 and they have a chat service on their website.

              When you turn 18, you will be considered a legal adult, which means you can move out and your parents are not able to stop you. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents, the items that they have bought you may technically be considered their property. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of long-term shelter placement where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. If you think that that may be an option you’re interested in, you can call us and we can look into one in your area.

              We are here to listen and help however we can. If you want more information about the TLP’s or just want to talk through your next steps, don’t hesitate to reach out to us. Our hotline is open 24/7, so were always a call away.

              Be well, NRS

          • I am 22 year old...simply i want to leave home...i am really scared by my father....this home is always being a domestic violence place...always my father get drunk at night...used to beat my mother and us...used to harrased all of us...and every morning promise us not to do so again...but that happen all long till last year...no..he is not left his habbit but my cousin started to leave at my home...so he is just not coming home at night....but now my cousin is gone....and i am sure he will be back with his action...but now i am really not ready...i really just can't take it...yes i am scared for my sisters and for my mother also...but i guess leaving home is the only way to give him a lesson

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            • ccsmod10
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              Hello there,


              Thanks for reaching out to us for help. It sounds like home life has been really stressful for you having to deal with domestic violence in the home. We hope our response will be helpful.

              Physical violence of any kind is never okay, if that situation happens again, you can always call the police. Since you are 22, you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to see if you can get more hours at work, or search for another job, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living.

              If you feel like you need someone to talk to about the violence going on at home, please don’t hesitate to call into our safeline. There is also the National Domestic Violence Hotline that is open 24/7 (800) 799-7233.

              We are here to help you find any resources that might be helpful and to support you in making a plan to deal with your situation. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

              Be well, NRS

          • I'm 18 years old and ready to leave my mothers house , me & my mother are very close but she's been stressing me out a lot saying thing that really hurt , I been going through that a lot in my life with her words. That have hurt me mentally a physically nothing I do makes her happy. I have no one to talk to about my problem . Would I be able to leave without getting introuble by police ?

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            • ccsmod10
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              Hi there,

              Thank you for reaching out to NRS via our forum! We appreciate your trust us with explaining a bit about your situation. We hope our response will be helpful.

              You talked about living at home with your mom, and how your relationship has changed, in a negative way. You don’t deserve to be mistreated in any sort of way, neither mentally nor physically. Just because she is your mom, doesn’t give her the right to be hurtful. It’s very understanding that you’re wanting to get away from her and the stressful environment. While we’re not legal experts, 18 is usually the age of majority, when youth are considered adults. That means that you are able to move out of the house, and your mom cannot force you to stay, neither can the police. If you need help planning out your next steps or helping you find resources, we are here to support you in any way we can. We also offer a conference calling service, youth call into our safeline and we call their local police station to ask them what their protocols are. That way, we make sure we’re getting you the answer to your legal questions, right from the source.

              Again, thank you for reaching out to us! You deserve to be happy and to have people in your life that bring positivity, and not stress. Our safeline is open 24/7, if you’d like to talk more about your situation or options for moving out.

              Stay strong, NRS
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