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  • I am almost 18 years old. After I turn 18 can I legally leave without my parents telling me I can't? I'm living in a very toxic household where there is nothing but yelling and screaming at each other. My aunt and uncle offered to take me in to live with them until I'm out of high school. My parents (mostly my dad) keeps telling me that I'm not allowed to leave because I'll still be in high school but I know thats not true. I have been mentally and emotionally abused my my parents the past 4 years and I'm fed up with it and just want to leave. All they want is control over me. They have put me down so many times. They judge me on my decisions for my life. They aren't accepting of me because I'm bi. I just wish I could leave right now. I have never had a job because they have told me no numerous times and told me that I'm not ready but I am. I have never been out with friends because I always have to babysit my brother and sister. They have taken control of my social media and changed all of my passwords. I have to do cyber school because they want me home all of the time. Basically the farthest I can go is to the library up the street from me because I volunteer there. Its just so frustrating that they think they can control me and I want to prove to them that they can't. Its just so hard to deal with. I've been told numerous times "go kill yourself" by them as they know I've tried in the past multiple times. I just need advice on things please.

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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re sorry to hear that your parents have been treating you in such a callous and abusive manner. You must be incredibly resilient to have put up with their behavior for so long. Once you turn 18, so long as you are not in Nebraska, Alabama, or Mississippi, you will be allowed to leave and live wherever you please. It sounds like your aunt and uncle would be a good change of pace, and you could opt to live there with or without your dad’s permission once you are 18. You seem like a hardworking and good natured person and you deserve a little more freedom in your life. If you want to talk about friends or finding a job, we would be happy to brainstorm with you ways to approach those kinds of situations. If you have any other questions or issues you want to talk about, please don’t hesitate to call us on our 24/7 hotline at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

  • want to leave my home.

    Hello I'm 19.and I hate my mother my father my sister I hated them all.i wanted to give medical exam n they r forcing me to get admission in other course coz last time I didn't get good marks. But medical is my dream and I wanna being an mbbs. And they thought that I'm dumb I can't be a doctor. They harassed me mentaly by there words. Even my elder sis won't help. She though the same.and they tell me to do something simple and easy. But easy is not an option. I can't sacrifice my dream for an easy. I hated them. They are not good parents. They don't support me. I want to go somewhere .i don't know where I have to go. I want to do study for medical exam. I'm sick of them.

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      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

      We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

  • I am 18. I am finally in a community college with a great transfer program and also another program that pays money for doing good in school (its hard to get into this program). I am planning to study business, and finally found that with my financial aid, I am able to get full scholarship and also study business (which I enjoy). Though this to my Muslim parents is not good enough. I have tried to commit suicide many times due to the pressure they always give me about how I am not a good daughter (which For REAL I have never smoke, drink, nor even had a boyfriend) and that they always praise my sister who is in a program that wasn't there in my year, which again IT WASN'T IN MY YEAR! yet my parents say that I am always dumb and don't work hard and literally hangout with friends all the time. COULD I TELL YOU THE OPPOSITE! I work at my job 4 days a week, I wake up mornings at 7 or 10 (depends on the class) and stay in the campus until 7:30 pm doing homework and literally having no friends at my campus, except for my one Muslim friend which I see twice every week. Yet I also got all A's for my progress reports. Today, I went to my "dream university" or that's what my dad says (because again I cant go to any other college because of my religion)and saw so many Muslim community living in campus, and thought that I wanted to do that. Which I can due to my full scholarship that pays for my dorm. The trip finished and drooped us back to our campus, and I decided to catch up with the homework that I missed classes for today. I then went home, showed my dad my opportunity to getting higher chances for my dream university. Yet my mom interferes and tells my dad how I don't help in the house, and don't study hard. Which dead ass I almost wanted to go to the bathroom and start to cut myself due to the stress I have always at home. Which is another reason why I come home late.
    I want to live normal, I want to have my own dorm, study abroad, study really hard, and finally not being depressed at home and wanting to kill myself due to my parents. But I really want to move out, and my parents are very strict, what should I do?

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      Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time. Congratulations on getting into a program that can help you pay for college. Regardless of all the stress and hardships you are going through it seems like you are not letting anything come between you and your goals. It’s unfortunate that your parents don’t recognize how hard you are working towards your goals and what you have accomplished so far. You don’t deserve to have someone calling you dumb or anything besides your name. You are smart and capable and no one should be making you feel less than what you are! If you ever need to talk to someone about why you are depressed and get the support you are lacking at home text NAMI at 741741.
      Also you mentioned that you have tried to commit suicide several times and have thoughts of suicide due to how you are treated at home. You are very brave for mentioning this. It can be tough to talk about something so personal. If you ever want to talk to someone about this like you did today or when you having those low moments contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1800-273-8255. Also if you want help with not cutting yourself and learning new ways to cope with pain the stress you are experiencing every day you can contact SAMHSA at 1800-622-HELP for a referral to a therapist or contact NAMI to talk to someone. You can also reach out to your friends, family or speak with the guidance counselor at your school. It’s important to talk to your support systems about what is going on so that they too and discuss some options with you. Maybe you could stay with a friend or family member temporarily. You can always contact us and get some information on shelters or transitional living programs. If you have any questions or concerns, please feel free to reach out to us at 1800-Runaway.

  • I will be 18 in 3 months, and I am not happy living in this house full of negativity. However, my mom has told me she has custody of me until i graduate high school. I believe when im 18 and still in school, i can still move out. is that true?

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      Hello and thank you for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We are sorry to hear that your living situation has gotten to the point where you feel like you need to leave. Custody/guardianship usually does not have anything to do with school. Unless you are in Mississippi (21), Alabama (19), or Nebraska (19), once you turn 18 you are entitled to live wherever you please. If you want, you can verify this by calling your local police non-emergency number. There are cases where the parents of people who have special needs or who may require assistance living can extend guardianship over a youth for a variable amount of time, but if you do not identify with those issues, it is extremely unlikely that that would be the case. If you want to talk in greater detail about your situation, please don’t hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929 or chat us at 1800runaway.org.

      Take care,
      NRS

  • [QUOTE= don't feel bad i am 17 and my mom emotional abuses me , she threatened me over my boyfriend she dont want me having no contact with him because i snuck out , i really love him and i wanna run away but i got probation on me until i turn 18 ,and that is 10 months from now , well i don't have the ankle bracelet , but im scared in going home because i don't wanna go to jail over the thing i done. My mother wants to take away my money and my car so i wont get an actual job and get emancipated , so i think im in a bad situation your 18 you can move out , i'm gonna tell you what my granny tells me bite the battery you have to deal with the pain until the time is up. And thats what im gonna have to do, i know i sound crazy over the things i said on here but its life. And i actually see the 10 months coming fast i mean its already october and my birthday is in august.

    so if you ever need someone to talk to im right here .
    Last edited by ccsmod7; 10-07-2019, 03:31 PM. Reason: identifying info

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    • ccsmod7
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      Thank you for your response to another user’s post. Often forums are a place of support and understanding for many youth. It often may be validating and helpful for users to read similar situations as well as exchange feedback to one another. For anyone experiencing any difficulties or challenges, the National Runaway Safeline encourages youth to reach out to our 24/7 crisis support line either by phone or chat for immediate services.

      Thank you,

      NRS

  • i’m 18, my parents control me. both my dad and step mom work all the time and so i’m consistently babysitting my younger brother. they barely talk to me and they treat me more like their nanny than their own daughter. i get fed mcdonald’s more than i can count on one hand in half a week because they don’t ever really make dinner. the only thing stopping me is the fact they don’t have anyone else to watch my brother but i feel like that’s not my responsibility if my mental health is crap and i feel suffocated. i packed my suitcase i’ve just been debating. if i leave i’m not telling them i’m moving until i leave. i’m just going to walk out when they are sleeping which could cause problems but if i tell them i’m leaving that’s going to cause a big argument. i currently don’t have my license because my dad is lazy and hasn’t taken me anywhere since we moved. he’s been telling me no to hanging out with people through the day when all he does is sleep and has no reason to tell me no. please help. is moving out a bad decision? i have a place to go and all i do is cry at home but my anxiety is so bad that if i leave i might break down but being here is so unhealthy

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    • ccsmod3
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      Thank you for reaching out to us. It sounds like you are having a tough time at home. It must be hard having so much responsibility placed on you and not having time to unwind or do things you want to do. It is understandable that you want to leave the household. Since you are 18 you are considered an adult. If you choose to leave the household legally you can. It’s really your choice how you want to move forward since you are the expert in your situation. If you want to talk through your options further, you can contact us at 1800-RUNAWAY. It’s good that you have a place to stay and you are thinking about safe places and how you would support yourself on your own. If you ever want to talk to someone or feel like you are in a crisis situation and need to talk it through contact NRS or you can contact NAMI at 1800-950-NAMI.Best of luck!
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