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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS. As an 18-year-old, you are considered a legal adult which means that you are free to do things without your mom's permission. It is not against the law to leave your mom's house. If you choose to leave the house and your mom reports you missing, it is possible that the police will attempt to locate you, but there will be no penalty once you are located. If you have further questions or just want to talk about what's going on at home, you may want to consider NRS live chat services at 1800runaway.org or our call service at 1-800-RUNAWAY.

    In the meantime, stay safe!

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I am 18 years old and my mom keeps throwing in my face that I can't leave and go do things and she keeps me here at the house and I feel like since I am 18 years old and an adult that I can leave the house and go do things without her permission but I am not sure because she keeps throwing in my face that I have to have her permission and keeps throwing the law in my face

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  • ccsmod15
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    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm 18 an I want to move out of my dads house bc of his family doing emotional damage can I without a problem?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

    We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I'm turning 18 soon and I want to move out of the Philippines

    Can my parents report me missing? I had enough with my toxic parents and want to move out. I know that you can make your own decision when you turn 18 since you are legally an adult. But I just want to know if my parents can report me missing

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do. We aren't legal experts here at NRS, but generally speaking, since you are 18, you are considered a legal adult you can live wherever you wish.

    You mentioned that you were raped and molested previously. You do not deserve to have this happen to you, and we believe and support you. You are a survivor and you are incredibly strong and resilient. It can be really hard to deal with this alone and sometimes it’s helpful to reach out to additional agencies for support. One really great resource for all survivors of sexual assault or abuse is RAINN (Rape Abuse Incest National Network). You can call them any time 24/7 at 1-800-656-4673, or go to www.rainn.org to use their online hotline. RAINN is the National Sexual Assault Hotline and has a lot of services, support and resources that you may find helpful.

    It sounds like you love your grandmother a lot since you have been staying to care for her. If she is in need of services or assistance after you leave, you or she may want to contact your local Department of Aging office to see what benefits and services she might qualify for. You can find local elder service agencies here: https://eldercare.acl.gov/Public/Abo...twork/AAA.aspx

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    hello, i'm a young 18 year old female, I live with my mother who is toxic. I stay to take care of my grandmother. I'm always cleaning and taking care of all the things my mother should. While i'm doing what she asks i get screamed at or hit. I'm scared of leaving because she threatens the ones i love and sending people after me. I want to be able to get a job and go out! My mother is mentally abusive and it's hard to deal with anymore. When she doesn't get her way she shoves me around. If i leave i can never come back because I am aware she'll beat me. I don't want to fight back because it'll make it worse. She loves to tell me i'm a whore when i have only slept with one person who I am still with, She doesn't know but i've been raped , molested multiple times. I have people who want to help me but i am scared. I love my mother even if she treats me like i'm a bug under her shoe. Right now my grandmother is in the hospital under going surgery on her leg, she has broken her femur. With out me she'd lose the house and everything. What do I do, what choices do i have anymore?

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    First of all, thank you so much for reaching out today. We know it can be a difficult thing to do and take a lot of courage. It sounds frustrating that your parents are saying you can’t go see your girlfriend.
    In most states, the age of majority is 18. This means that at age 18, your parents technically do not have custody over you any longer. In that case, if they do decide to call the cops, the police and your parents will not be able to force you to go anywhere.
    We cannot tell you exactly what to do because you know your situation best, but legally the police and your parents cannot do anything if you leave your house.
    Feel free to contact us anytime using our live chat system on 1800runaway.com or call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. We are available 24/7 to discuss your situation more in depth if you would like.
    Best of luck and stay safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    Hello. I am 18 and I’m wanting to leave my home and fly to see my girlfriend for a week. I told my parents I am going to fly to her just so they’d know where I am and they told me no I can’t do that. They keep telling me no and they say I’m not mentally stable because of my mental illnesses even though I’m perfectly fine, I just have some days that are harder than others. They also threaten to call the cops on me then too if I leave. Can they do that? Will the police do anything? Should I just go and see her?

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  • ccsmod0
    commented on Guest's reply
    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live.  We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living if you and your boyfriend don't already have a place to stay. We are here to listen and help however we can.

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I can ran away If I'm 20 but my parents will call cops on me. They will arrest me if I ran away go with my boyfriend???

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  • ccsmod15
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. Up until the day you turn 18 if you leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. If you are very close to turning 18 you might be able to convince police to allow you to stay elsewhere but that is up to the individual officer often. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.
    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    Be safe,
    NRS

  • Guest
    Guest replied
    I’m 17 at the moment. The tension in my house has become unbearable. My mother controls who I speak too, and even though I have online friends I’ve known for more than five or six years, she still yells at me for speaking to “strangers”. She guilt trips me, telling me I must think she’s a dummy or something, and yells and berates me in Spanish. She threatens to take my phone until I leave the house, but also claims that I will not be seen as an adult in her house even when I turn 18. Is it possible to run away at the age of 17 without being sent back home by the police?

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  • ccsmod1
    commented on Guest's reply
    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It makes sense that you would want more independence since you are so close to turning 18. To address your question, we aren't legal experts, but generally speaking, once you turn 18, all the police can do is perform a safety check on you. This means that they would ensure that they would go where you are and ensure that you are safe, and then would leave you where you are since you will be a legal adult.

    You mentioned that your mom has been the cause of some depression lately. It can be really hard to live with mental health issues and we want you to know that you aren’t alone in addressing them. If you’d like some additional support, an organization that may be helpful is the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI). You can contact them by calling 1-800-950-NAMI or you can text them by sending NAMI to 741741. Another agency that could be of great help is the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA), they can help you locate low or no cost mental health care providers in your area. Their number is 1-800-662-4357 or you can go to their site at samhsa.gov.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

    We'd love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to support youth and families. Please click the link below to fill out our survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/we_care_what_you_think
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