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  • ccsmod2
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    Hello There,
    Thank you for reaching out to The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. It seems like you are in a difficult situation.
    We are not legal experts but it does look like the legal age to leave home in Puerto Rico is 21. What that means is if you were to leave without permission you could be considered as a runaway. If the police did find you they could bring you back home. You could always call your local police department to find out the best answer.
    We wish you the best of luck in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to explore options please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and to provide support.
    NRS

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    Hi am 18 and I live in Puerto Rico and I want to move out to the states but my dad said he will call the cops if I try to runaway or get out of Puerto Rico cuz the age of emancipation is 21 would I get introuble if I move to the states while a missing report is done in Puerto Rico

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey Luis,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It makes sense that you would want more independence from your parents now that you are a legal adult. Leaving home is a big decision and it can be very stressful to figure out what you want to do.

    We aren't legal experts here at NRS but the age of majority (adulthood) in the US is 18 (except for NE, AL and MS) so you are considered a legal adult and can leave home whenever you wish. If you leave home your parents can contact the police and request a wellness check to ensure that you are safe. If the police find that you are not in any kind of immediate danger than they would leave you alone.

    It’s important to consider all the possibilities that can occur if you leave home. You will need to plan out how you will cover basic necessities like travel, food, clothing, etc. If you have a place to go in mind, it’s good to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc. Living on your own can also bring about many safety risks. You will need to consider ways that you can protect yourself from physical harm as well as the possibility of sexual and labor exploitation. This can all influence your decision to leave.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hi im Luis, im 18 and i want to move out of my parents house, but they think they can call the cops if i leave, in addition im about to graduate from high school and i deserve to go anywhere i want, i even want to go to college out of state, they always try to keep me home, they're wrong! I deserve to move out, and get a job elsewhere, and live in another area, like what do i do??
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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out today.

    We are not legal experts but we can answer your question generally. The federal legal age is 18, however, the legal age in Puerto Rico is 21. So it would depend on whether or not your local law enforcement considers you an adult at 20. If you haven't already, you might reach out to your local police and ask if you can leave home without being considered a runaway.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to talk through your situation. We are always here for you. 1-800-RUNAWAY; www.1800runaway.org/

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 20.. I love in Puerto Rico but I’m moving out . Is it okay for me to move out at the age of 20? Can the police officers do something if i move out ?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello! Thank you so much for reaching out.

    You mentioned that you’re 18 years old, and your boyfriend is about to turn 18 himself as well, and you guys are trying to move to another state. You’re really brave for taking the big step in trying to start your life, but also wanting to know the consequences of your actions. We’re not legal experts, but in most states anyone under 18 is considered a minor. In Virginia and Pennsylvania the legal age considered an adult is 18. The cops may not come after you, but your guardians may file a missing person’s report if you guys leave without telling anyone. If you wish to know more, you may explore the option of contacting your local non-emergency phone number, and inquiring about laws in your city and state.

    We hope these resources have been of some use to you. If you need additional help, or want us to make a call to another organization on your behalf, feel free to reach out to us anytime at 1800) 786-2929. Best of luck!

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    I am currently 18 years old, my boyfriend will be 18 Dec 28th. We want to leave Virgina and move to PA but come back to Virginia after a while, we are worried that my parents will call the cops. Can the cops be sent after us in PA even though we both are 18?

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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there,
    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline.

    You mentioned wanting to leave two weeks before your 18th birthday. In Florida, the age of majority is 18. Generally, if you leave before turning 18, your guardians can file a runaway report which would have the police looking for you. If you are staying with friends, they could be charged with harboring a runaway. We are not legal experts, though, and one way to gauge your rights is to reach out to your local, non-emergency police with hypothetical questions. Laws vary depending on situation and location.

    Know that we are here 24/7 if you would like to reach out to us on the phone. Our number is 1-800-RUNAWAY and we are confidential and toll-free. On a call, we would be able to explore your options in more depth.

    Stay strong,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    i am 2 weeks from being 18. I live in florida. My parents wont let me leave. how much trouble could I get into if I just left?

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hey there,

    Thanks so much for reaching out and sharing a little bit about what’s been going on, we know that it takes a lot of courage. It must be really hard to live in a home with so much tension. It must be very frustrating to give so many restrictions placed on you and to not be able to make decisions on how best to raise your daughter. Since you are 19 you are considered a legal adult (unless you are in Mississippi in which case the age of majority is 21). This means that you can live wherever and leave anytime you wish. If you are planning on living with your daughter's father it is always a good idea to see what the expectations of the living arrangement will be like; rules, the amount of time you’re allowed to stay, if you’re expected to contribute financially, etc.

    If you’d like to go over what’s going on in depth, or if you’d like to explore other options that you may have available to you, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY. You can also chat us by clicking on the “CHAT” button on top of our homepage. We’re open 24/7 and here to listen and support you in any way we can.

    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello I'm 19 years old and I have been wanting to move out and I have tried talking to my parents about it but they both told me they wouldn't support me in any way and I have a 1 year old she will be 2 here pretty soon I have tried talking to my parents about gettin an apartment by myself but they told me I wasn't mature enough so I have been slowly packing up my things to go and live with my daughters real father he has been wanting me to move in and I like the idea of it because here at my house I get no freedom my mom has to know where I'm at 24/7 if she doesn't know where I'm at she flips out especially if I don't answer her phone calls cause when I get home she yells at me constantly and also she gets onto my daughter the way she wants and she does nothing but yell and scream and spank my daughter and I can't say or do nothing about it because then I get yelled at and that makes me feel like a the worst mother ever I can't even get onto my kid the way I want everything has to be done her way and also my dad said if I started a job half my paycheck goes to them and the other half I have to spend wisely I don't know what to do anymore besides just getting up and leaving I have tried multiple times talking to them but neither one of them wanna actually listen and here what I have to say I just wanna give my daughter the life she deserves and with us living here I cannot do that....
    Help me please!
    I need some advice on what to do!

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  • ccsmod4
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    I’m 17 and I want to move out.

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like things are pretty difficult for you at home and it may be causing you some stress. It’s unfortunate that this behavior is going on. You don’t deserve to be mistreated in any way. It’s not your fault that this is happening.

    We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email or bulletin for assistance. If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to or seek emergency assistance immediately.
    We hope to hear from you soon.

    Take care,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    I’m 17 and I want to move out.

    My mom treats me like crap. And my parents are always arguing and there has been some violence in the house. I get screamed at and cussed out if I forget to wash the dishes for one day but when my brothers forget th

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  • ccsmod6
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    Thank you so much for reaching out to us! These subjects aren't always easy to talk about, and asking for help can be scary.

    It sounds like your parents and sister have been yelling at you a lot. It also sounds like your mom has judged you for your choices, and accused you of breaking rules, when you feel like you have been carefully following them. Everything you described sounds really frustrating and painful to live with. Being angry about this is really understandable, and so is wanting some freedom to make your own choices without being judged or cursed at.

    It also sounds like you have been considering running away. As a 17 year old, if you were to move out without your parents’ knowledge, they might file a runaway report with the police. This doesn’t mean you would be in legal trouble, but if you were found by the police, they would probably bring you back to your parents’ place. It is also possible that anyone you were staying with might face legal consequences for harboring a runaway, and finally many housing resources (such as shelters) are required to inform your parents where you are if you were to stay there.

    If you are close to turning 18, you might consider waiting until then, when you will have more choices. But whether you decide to leave home while 17 or 18, it’s important to think through a plan that includes a safe place to stay, and reliable ways to access necessities such as food, clothing, and healthcare. It’s also important to create a safety plan, in case you run into an emergency.

    If you want help working through a plan, or just somewhere confidential to vent, we are always here to listen, and share resources, either by phone (1-800-RUNAWAY) or by chat via our website (www.1800runaway.org). Thank you again for reaching out to us – it sounds like you’re in a frustrating situation, and we are here to listen and help.

    Take care,
    NRS
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