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    My fiance wants to move out of her mom's house can she in NY?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hi, thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It must be difficult to be going through the current issues you are having with your mother and it is understandable to love your mother but feel you need a break from her. At 17, you are still considered a minor and depending on the leniency or strictness of authorities with certain laws being enforced in your state, there could be a number of outcomes if you decide to leave home and live elsewhere, such as with your boyfriend and his family, without your mother’s approval. At your age, you are still, by law, a minor and required to have an adult responsible for you as well as your whereabouts. In your case that would be your mother/parents. If you leave the home without your mother’s consent then, she is able to call authorities and potentially file a runaway report if you are refusing to come back home. There is the possibility of you having to return home or discuss an alternate living situation with your mother that she will consent to. There is also the option for your mother to file what is called harboring a runaway against the adults you are living with which basically means that there could be legal consequences for them, if your mother chooses to pursue that charge. It is a lengthy process so, due to your age and the fact that you will be 18 soon, it is likely that charge would be something your mother would pursue but, it is an option for her. Legally, it is not illegal to leave your home. You would not be arrested or charged with a crime for leaving your home. If that is something you feel like is best for you, it is always best to have a clear and secure plan. As always, we are here to assist and would love to speak with you further. Feel free to give us a call at our 24 hour hotline 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with is live anytime by visiting our website 1800runaway.org.

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    I live in North Carolina. My birthday is February 16th. I'll be 18 on that day. I've been having trouble at home with my mom and stepdad. We've been arguing a lot lately and I'm tired of the arguing all the time. I have a boyfriend that is about the be 21 and he still lives with his mother and son, we've been together 2 years now and he's also seen what I go through. He said he's sure his mom wouldn't mind me living with them. I love my mom don't get me wrong. I may just need a break but I'm tired of arguing and having disagreements all the time. I just wanted to know if its fine to leave when I turn 18 and there be no issues with the law coming to get me? Because my mom has said shell call the cops on me if I tried to leave.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out. It sounds like things are really stressful at home right now. It is awful to feel like your parents are suffocating you because they can’t accept your sexuality. That is incredibly hurtful. Your parents are supposed to love and support you for the person you are rather than who they wish you would be. It’s understandable that you feel upset and that you’d want to get out of there. You absolutely deserve to be somewhere you feel loved and supported. Since you are 18, you are able to leave home without permission. A really great option could be a transitional living program (TLP) if there is one in your area. TLPs are programs that provide housing for up to 18 months and are designed to help young adults get on their feet financially and socially. If you need help finding a TLP near you, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.
    You mention that you’re bisexual. It can be really difficult when your family isn’t accepting of that. If you ever need support, there are some really excellent resources for the LGBT community. We’ve listed those below. We want you to know that you are not alone and while things are overwhelming right now, it will not always feel this way. You are perfect just the way you are and there are so many people out there who will love and support you.
    LGBT National Hotline: 1-800-843-4564
    LGBT National Youth Talkline: 1-800-246-7743
    Stay safe,
    NRS

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    Hi I live in Texas and am 18. My parents keep taking away my personal belongings and I want to leave but they threaten to call the police on me all the time. I don't know what to do anymore and I feel like I am suffocating, and its not the fact that I hate rules, I just think that they haven't been able to keep an open mind to me being bisexual. I am crying right now as I am writing this because I am so confused as to what to do. I dont have a job and I dont have a place to go, I dont have a friends house to run to I'm alone. Please, is there anything I can do or anywhere I could go?

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for contacting National Runaway Safeline. It seems you are dealing with quite an unfortunate situation. It seems like a difficult thing to go through to not feel supported and assisted by your parents. Your boyfriend’s parents, however, seem to care quite a bit and were very nice to allow you and your boyfriend to live with them. To answer your question, we are not legal experts here at NRS but by utilizing some resources we are able to inform that according to Georgia law, you are not considered an adult until 18. Due to this some of the decisions you make can still be affected by your parents. However, if your parents force you to not go to school, as a minor, and do not allow you to be able to get a proper education, there could be a risk of truancy. This means that parents who do not provide the basic needs for their children including access to education can face legal consequences. However, once you are 18 and legally an adult, your parents cannot legally take you out of school. Your current age could come into play with you moving as well. As mentioned before, at 17, in Georgia you are still considered a minor. However, if you would like to further explore your legal rights and get information about this matter, you can contact a legal service in Georgia. Hopefully, this information can be of assistance to you. If you would like to talk with us further feel free to give us a call at 1800-RUNAWAY or chat with us live by visiting 1800runaway.org.

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    I’m 17 and I’ll be 18 in December and I wanna move out. I live in Georgia.

    I wanna move out and live with my boyfriend and his parents. Me and him are engaged but my pawpaw didn’t give us permission. After I’m 18 I still have school left and my parents told me that they would take me out of school, are they allowed to do that? My boyfriend parents do more for me then mine do. They don’t care about me they just use me as a maid. They don’t take me or pick me up from work. They don’t buy me clothes or shoes. I don’t have a tv or even a heater in my room. Is there anyway I can leave before I’m 18??

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear about all that has been going on and want you to know that you do deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. We understand that it takes a great deal of courage to seek help. You mentioned experiencing emotional abuse which may be reportable against your parents. Please keep in mind you by no means deserve any type of abuse, emotional or otherwise. That said, we can’t be 100% sure what the outcome will be if your local CPS decides to open a case based on what you share. Sometimes CPS decides to remove minors from the home and other times they offer services such as family counseling or mediation instead. The only way to know the outcome might be to reach out to them directly and if you’re ready to do that we are here to help you through that process. Reaching out to Child Help USA at (1-800-422-4453) or www.childhelp.org may help to get a better understanding of what may happen before and after a report is made. They also would be able to talk to you about the possibility of having custody transferred to someone else.

    It sounds like you are unsure of who to turn to but also are thinking of talking more to someone at school. You have the right to decide when enough is enough and to decide that you want something better for yourself. Talking to a guidance counselor or other adults in your life that you trust can help you walk through your options and figure out what would be best for you. We are also here 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929 if you ever need someone to talk to or need help identifying the people in your life that you can talk to. Don't hesitate to reach out to us or Child Help for help.

    Stay safe,

    NRS

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    So I'm 15 and I was adopted when I was seven. My biological sister turned 18 two days ago and I cannot live in my house without her, I need her. She's always been with me my whole life and throughout foster care. The house I live in now isn't good. I like my parents but they can be abusive towards my other non biological sister. Even though they may not be hitting me I see it happen so much I'm scared to go near them sometimes. I genuinely don't feel safe at my house. I auffsu from depression and anxiety both really bad along with possible ocd and an eating disorder but my parents don't give a ********. There's always so much yelling and hitting, the cops are always at my hiuho in fact they even came there today. I'm thinking about talking to guidance in my school to see if there's any way I can get out if my house, it doesn't have to be permanent it could be for a couple months I just need to get out. The school does know about some stuff that goes on in my house but it really does effect me. I'll openly admit this here that I do abuse drigs because of where I live. Ive been wanting to run away since I first got there when I was younger. If the school can't offer me any help and if I can't legally leave my hiuho for some time, I think I'm gonna run away. I have already thought out where I'm gonna go. I don't want to do this because I fear I'll lose control of myself but staying in my house is far worse. I've already tried to kms twice already and both times I never went to the hospital so I have nothing to back me up if I say I tried because my mom wouldn't take me because "that's what I deserved for downing a bunch of pills". Please please someone let me know if it's worth even talking to the school about leaving my house. I understand people have it far worse but I can't even explain half the ******** that goes on. I'd do anything to leave that house. I'd get clean if that's what it took, idI throw out my lighters and everything. It's not just the people in my house, it's the house in general. Every single room is associated with a bad memory multiple bad memories and I can't take it. I feel like if I stay there I'm gonna get worse. I feel I'm just gonna get more addicted to things, and I just don't feel safe. Just because I'm not being hit doesn't mean it doesn't effect me. I'm scared to go near them when I'm mad, I'm scared to do anything because I fear if I mess up I'm gonna get hit, even tho my parents promise they never would...emotions can get the best of you and ik that. If there's another way out let me know, please. I don't want to run away and leave everyone I live behind but if that's what it comes down to I will.

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  • ccsmod10
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    Hey there,

    Thanks for reaching out to NRS!

    We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. It’s brave of you to reach out during your time of need.

    It sounds like home life is getting too much to handle and you’re wanting to be more independent. It’s understandable that want to get out in the world and life your life!

    We’re not legal experts ourselves and we do offer to call out to police with youth through our conference calling services. Since you’re 18, you should be considered a legal adult in the legal world. Unless your parents have extended guardianship over you due to your autism but you would have had to go to court for them to get that. At 18 you’re considered a legal adult in the eyes of the law. We have a database of resources and if you’re able to call in, we can try to brainstorm with you and get a better idea of your situation. If you need somewhere to stay, we can try to find a housing program in your area. Unfortunately, we are non-directive at NRS, and can't give out advice, but we're always here to talk and listen.

    Our safeline is open 24/7. We also have a chatting service via our website, unfortunately, it is not always open. The best way to contact us would be to call in and talk with our trained liners.

    Be well, NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello, I was wondering if my parents could call the police on me if I’m over 18 and autistic but still can function on my own and make my own choices I left before and we got in a big fight and they threatened to call the police on me if I didn’t come home I was scared so I came home the first time but things at home just keep getting worse I live in Utah.

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  • ccsmod5
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    Hi,
    Thank you for reaching out. It must be frustrating that you aren’t allowed the freedom that you’re looking for. We aren’t legal experts, but in most states the age of majority is 18; generally, if you choose to leave home as a 19-year-old you would not be considered a runaway. Thank you again for reaching out. If you have additional questions or want to talk about your situation, please feel free to reach out to us by phone at 1-800-786-2929.
    Stay safe!
    NRS

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    I am 19 years old and my mama won’t let me go outside all I want be able to spend time with my friends but she won’t let me all I do is sit in the house and I am getting fed up am I going to be a run away

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello there,

    Thank you for reaching out to NRS and sharing what’s going on with you. We are sorry to hear about your situation. Although NRS is not a legal agency, we can answer your questions to the best of our ability. As for your rights as an 18 year old, except for a few states, you are legally considered an adult and therefore have the freedom to go where you wish. And as such, your mother cannot file a missing person’s report as an attempt to prevent you from leaving. If you feel that your mother would be an impediment to your moving, you can also call the non-emergency number to see if the police could provide an escort for you to get the things you need from home.

    If you would like to talk about other resources and support, feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat. We also offer a conference calling option if you feel that you would like to have us mediate a conversation between yourself and your mother.

    We hope this information was helpful and take care.
    National Runaway Safeline
    [email protected] (Crisis Email)
    1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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    Guest replied
    I'll be turning 18 in April and ever time I tell my mom that she gets mad is there anything she can do to hold be back from moving out when I want to leave

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