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  • ccsmod7
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    Hi there! Thanks for reaching out today, sounds like you are pretty done with living with your stepfather who unfairly compares you to his child. That sounds pretty hard to handle.

    18 years old is generally the legal age youth become adults and can make their own life decisions including where they live. So generally you cannot be listed as a runaway at 18, and you can live with your friend. That is great that you have a nearby friend that you can rely on. You might also think about the other things you will need to when moving out of your parent's house to support yourself such as finances, vital documents, transportation, and all of your basic needs.

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you would like to go over your plan to move or if you have any other questions. We are always here for you.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Im 18 and want to stay with a nearby friend because my mom’s third husband, my stepfather, is toxic and always compares me to his youngest “prodigy” chuld who is younger then me. I want to finish school first but i dont want to live or be near that man.

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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply: I am 18 years old and my parents


    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway.
    As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet.
    Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone.
    Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses.
    It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget.

    Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    If you would like to talk more in detail and share more about how we can help specifically, please call or chat soon.

    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

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    Guest replied
    I am 18 years old and my parents won't let me move out, get a job, and they won't let me go anywhere or talk to anyone.. They take my phone and hide it from me. I want to move in with my friend but they don't like her so they'd flip a lid.. My mom said she'd call the police if I left.. Do they have the right to do any of this?

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  • ccsmod5
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    Thank you for writing to NRS. It sounds like things are outstandingly difficult at home, and we appreciate you contact us for advice. Since you are 21, they cannot file a runaway or missing person report to tell your parents where you are or bring you home. If you would like additional information, you could contact a legal aid service to talk to a lawyer for free. Another resource you could think about talking to would be RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network) at 1 800 656 4673. If you would like to talk to us further, we can be reached via our online chat or via phone at 1-800-RUNAWAY

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    Guest replied
    I’m 21 and I’m planning on leaving my house I have a sexual abusive step father but nobody knows except me and him. I haven’t told my mom and I don’t want to I just want to leave and I was wondering if I left would they call the police or file a missing person. Everyone treats me like I’m literally nothing in this house and I can’t take it anymore.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

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    Guest replied
    can my parents legally keep me home when I turn 18 and want to go out without them threatening to ground me or such

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  • ccsmod3
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    Thanks for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. Once you are 18 (or age of majority in your state, you are able to move out legally and their is nothing that the police can to bring you back home. In some cases there are time when a parent files for extended custody which changes that ability, but we don't hear this very often. We are here for you and will support you in anyway that we can. Please feel free to call into us directly as we can talk further about your situation and find resources that are best for you in your area. Our hotline ( 1-800-RUNAWAY) and chat are open 24/7.

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    Guest replied
    I moved out of my mom's house when i was18 and she never called the cops on me. so now since i am 35 people don't think i wouldn't live in the south and thats not true. i am older enough to make my own choices like everyone else. so it's not against the law if you want to move out and live anywhere.

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  • ccsmod9
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    Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

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    Guest replied
    Hello I’m 18 I’m so tired of living with my parents my mom said I’m not allowed to leave until I graduate I pay bills and I was wondering if I leave could she call the cops? What would happen if she did? And can I leave?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Safeline. It takes great courage to reach out for help and we are glad that you decided to reach out for help.


    We are sorry to hear that you are going through such a hard time. You don't deserve to go through this. If your safety is ever at risk you can call 911. This situation is not complicated and we are not legal experts. However if it might be an option for you to file an abuse report you do have the option to do that. While it seems like you are concerned about not filing a report because of your sister's it can be helpful to think about if how they might stay after you were to leave. If they are going through abuse as well you can consider filing an abuse report. Before you leave home it can be helpful to think about where you might stay, how you might pay for food, rent or other living expenses. Since we are not legal experts it can be helpful to contact www.lawhelp.org for any legal aid resources.

    You can call us at our 24 hour confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY(786-2929) and we would be happy to listen to you, explore your options and provide any resources.

    You are doing great by reaching out for help. We wish you the best and hope to hear from you soon.

    Best,

    NRS

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    Guest replied
    Hello. I am a 17 year old woman, and in the state of Missouri, I am considered a legal adult. Things are stressful and bad for me at home. I have picture evidence of bruises but I do not want dfs called because of my sister's. I can't take much more of the stress and I tried leaving the house once, however, my mom wouldn't give me my phone and car keys (even though I pay the insurance and I paid for the car but her name is on the title so I can have insurance and my Gma pays for my phone) therefore she tried setting me up for fsilure so I thought I needed to go back because in the long run it would be better. Now I'm at the point that I need to leave. She has already threatened to put a restraining order on a guy that I'm talking to as well and I don't want him getting into trouble as he came to this town for a better life. Is it possible to have an officer escort me out with my stuff? I have multiple places to go, but I want to make sure I have my phone and car as I need those for work, for my duties in the military, for school, etc. Please help asap.
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  • ccsmod4
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    Reply:My fiance wants to move

    Hi there,
    Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS).

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It sounds like your fiancé may want to leave home and you would like to know some information on runaway laws.
    While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, a parent/guardian may file a runaway report and the person may be returned home. Also, those they stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions.

    We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
    Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
    If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.

    Be safe,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us

    Leave a comment:

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