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  • #76
    My friend is 18 and lives in Texas. The biggest part is that they are confirmed to have mental disabilities( though that in itself isnt a problem). However, they feel unloved and want to leave but are sort of being trapped against their will by their mother. If they were to run away while classified as mentally disabled, would police have to bring them back if their mother files a report?

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    • #77
      Hello,

      Thanks for reaching out to us. It seems that your friend is considering running away, but concerned about their mental disability. Since we aren't legal experts we actually don't know if that would affect your friend running away. It may be a good idea to consider reaching out to a legal expert in your area to find out if there are any limitations on the age of being a legal adult. Hopefully they can offer more information!

      Take care,
      NRS
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      • #78
        Hello. I am 19 going on 20 and I live in Ohio. I have been having problems with my mother and she recently found out that when I was younger I had suicidal thoughts. She is going to basically ruin my life because of this and take me out of school, take away my car, etc. I legally own my car and since I am 18 I figured I would be OK to leave. Could she call the cops on me because I have some mental health issues and find someplace healthier for me to stay?

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        • ccsmod0
          ccsmod0 commented
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          Hello,
          Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your mother has recently found out that in your past you dealt with suicidal thoughts. Since finding out this information she is now going to take you out of school and take away your car. It is fantastic that you are currently in such good heath that you decided to leave and be independent. We want you to know that we are not legal experts but in most states the age or majority is 18. (Nebraska 19, Alabama 20) This means that you are legally responsible for yourself and your parents/ guardians can no longer control what you do and where you go. On the other hand your parents/guardians are no longer required to provide you with food, shelter, or financial assistance anymore. This also means that your mother may not request that the police bring you home. She would only be able to that is if she petitions the court to have guardianship extended for you because you are not capable of taking care of yourself.
          Again, thank you for reaching out to us. We hope this information was helpful.
          Please call us anytime; we are available 24 hours a day at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best of luck.

      • #79
        Im 20 and just moved out of my house a few weeks ago. My mom has literally said she has given up as a mother and can no longer raise me and my brother (16). I have a boyfriend of 6 years so I am living with him in a nice apartment that is attached to his dads house. My mom has been telling me for the past few months that she wants me to move out and she can't take care of me anymore. I truly cannot stand her behavior... She has become an alcoholic, barely goes food shopping, attacks me and my brother, and so much more. I am so fed up with her negativity, so I finally got the courage to move out. Im three weeks in and my mom called me last night (wasted) and said that she is forcing me to move back home, she is taking my car and my phone away and that I am forced to break up with my boyfriend. She does pay for my phone, not my car though. Can she really do that? Can she force me to come home? I am tempted to file a restraining order because she stalks me too and shows up to places that I am at. My parents are divorced and I am very close with my dad. My dad said me and him should get restraining orders against her and he is all for me moving out. He thinks its the best thing for me.
        I just want to know if she can legally force me to move back home and still have all this control over me like she thinks she has.

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hello,

          Thanks for reaching out to us for help. We are so sorry to hear about the situation at home with your mom. You don’t deserve to be treated badly, and it is totally understandable that you moved out. At the age of 20, you are considered a legal adult, so you have every right to move out of your mother’s house. She cannot force you to come back home or to break up with your boyfriend. Your mother does not have any legal or financial obligations to you. If she pays for your phone, she can take that away. As for your car, it sounds like she doesn’t pay for it, but it may depend on whose name is on the car’s title. If the car is in your name and you are paying for it, she probably can’t take it away. If you are unsure, you could always call your local police and ask them. It sounds like you are thinking about filing a restraining order against your mom and that she is stalking you. That may be a good option for you, and you can contact your local law enforcement about this option. It is good to hear that you have support from your boyfriend and your dad. This is a really tough situation, and it takes strength to do what you are doing. If you need any resources or need to talk, don’t hesitate to give us a call any time. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

      • #80
        I'm 18 in September. I recently told my mom that I wish to move out of the house when I'm 18 and rent an apartment. Our relationship has always been rocky to say the least and we argue almost everyday. My mother is also very controlling. If something doesn't go her way or exactly how she wants it to go she gets really angry. Because of this I decided I wanted to move out. I have a boyfriend who will be 18 ten days after me and most likely will move in with me. I did not tell my mom that part because she's already very "wait til marriage" "act ladylike" kind of person. She doesn't know we've already had sex. When I told her about moving out she freaked out. She told me my dad would hire lawyers to drag me back home and our family has better "standards". I will only move out when I'm 18. I want to know if there's any law (I live in Illinois) that says that my parents could legally force me to stay with them after I become 18.

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        • ccsmod6
          ccsmod6 commented
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          Hi there,
          Thanks for reaching out to us. We know these can be tough situations to talk about. In Illinois, you are considered a minor until the age of 18, at which point you legally become an adult in the eyes of the law/court. Your parents would no longer be able to file a youth runaway report, and the police would likely not be able to make you return home.
          It sounds like you’ve thought a bit about a plan to move out already, and that your boyfriend would possibly move in with you as well. So perhaps you’ve already thought about how you will support yourself (pay rent and bills, buy food, stay safe, etc.), but if you want to talk through options or questions about leaving home, we can do that if you give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.
          Or, if you want to talk more about what’s going on at home and some options for dealing with that until you move out, we are here to listen and help however we can.
          NRS

      • #81
        I'm 16 (I live in Florida) and I want to leave my parents house so if I leave to Georgia and live with a good friend of mine... can my parents call the cops and make a case and all that?

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        • ccsmod2
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          Hey,

          At 16 years old, if you decide to leave home without permission to live with a friend, you would be considered a runaway. Your parents most likely would be able to contact the police and file a runaway report.

          NRS

      • #82
        Hi,

        My girlfriend wants to move in with me. Mind you we are both 18. Shes says if she tries to move out her dad will stop her and prevent her from leaving. Is there anything he can be charged with. Like, holding her against her will or kidnapping??? I need to know soon.

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Thank you for contacting NRS, we are glad you reached out to us. Sorry to hear about your situation, it seems tough. Although we are not legal experts, but the age of majority in most states (not all) is 18 years old. Depending on your state, your girlfriend might be of legal age, which means she can move wherever she wants. Again we are not legal experts, so we cannot know if there will be legal consequences for her father if he prevents her from moving out. You can call a legal aid office or non-emergency police number and ask about the legal consequences if her father prevents her from moving. We hope we answered your questions. If you need more help feel free to call us on 1-800-786-2929, or visit our website nrs.org. We are open 24/7, so you can contact us anytime.

      • #83
        My girlfriend is 18...shes from Texas . Can she run away without the police doing nothing to her ?

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        • ccsmod6
          ccsmod6 commented
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          Thank you for contacting the Runaway Safeline. We’re glad that you reached out to us for assistance Your girlfriend is fortunate to be in a relationship with someone who is looking out for her best interests.
          In the state of Texas, a person is legally an adult when they turn 18. This means that your girlfriend can leave home without legal repercussions and without her parents’ permission. Moving away from home for the first time is a big decision and can be scary. Making arrangements for a safe place to stay before leaving home is a really important step.
          If you or your girlfriend would like to talk more about this please feel free to contact us directly at (800) 786-2929. We’re available 24 hours a day/7days a week.

      • #84
        I am A 17 year old boy who wants to leave his parents house. I plan on leaving the house the day after I turn 18. I am in Grand Rapids, Michigan. I want to know if my parents have any way of stopping me. I want to leave because I am under harsh but not abusive conditions. (unless you count psychological abuse) I still love my parents but I really want to leave because I know that I will be financially stable and I would have decent living conditions if I go out. I have already planned out what to do after I leave But I really want to know If my parents can stop me in anyway. Can my parents file a missing child report if I leave the house? Can my parents legally stop me from leaving? Do i have to inform them that I am leaving as well? I don't want to tell them because I know they will do everything to keep me from going out the door. Could i leave during the night and leave a note?

        Any info that can Help me in my situation would be much appreciated

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Hello there, thanks for reaching out. Sounds like you are enduring psychological abuse at home, and are planning to move out at the age of 18. You do not deserve to be harmed in any way, and here at NRS we truly want to help.

          We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally. In Michigan, the legal or majority age is 18, meaning that you can make your own life decisions including choosing where you live without your parent’s permission. If you leave home at 18, your parents cannot file a runaway report for you. The only way they could file a missing person’s report for you is if they think you were abducted or that something bad happened to you. So you might leave a note or let them know you are safe after you leave to protect against them filing a missing person’s report. Legally, they cannot force you to stay home once you are a legal adult. It sounds like you have already been planning a lot to move out; which is smart. You might make sure that you are able to provide for your basic needs and that you have somewhere to go before you leave home.

          It is hard to say what could happen to your stuff once you leave home. It is possible that your parents could take your items once you leave, so you might bring all your valuables and vital documents with you when you do leave. You do have the option of trying to get a police escort into your house, if your parents will not allow you to get your things once you are 18. However, that is depended on individual police response and the situation.

          Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you would like to talk more about your situation.

          Best of luck,

          NRS

      • #85
        17 year old turning 18 in April 2018. I want to leave I am psychologically and verbally abused


        I am a 17 year old boy and I want to leave my house. I am verbally abused daily and psychologically abused about 5 or 6 times a month. I plan on leaving the day after I turn 18. And I want to know if my parents can legally stop me in anyway. I would be financially stable and I would have decent living conditions. I plan on leaving at night and leaving a note. I don't want to tell them face to face that I am leaving because I know they will do everything to stop me. Can my parents report me as a missing child if i am 18. I live in Grand Rapids Michigan. I have everything planned out up to when I turn 24 If i can get out of the house. Can my parents take away anything when I leave If i bought it with my own money? Is the a way that I can get a restraining order on one of them with all of the verbal abuse and psychological abuse if i get evidence of the abuse? Can I get my parents to lave me completely alone?

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        • ccsmod7
          ccsmod7 commented
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          Please see our response to your similar comment above:

          "Hello there, thanks for reaching out. Sounds like you are enduring psychological abuse at home, and are planning to move out at the age of 18. You do not deserve to be harmed in any way, and here at NRS we truly want to help.

          We are not legal experts, but we can speak generally. In Michigan, the legal or majority age is 18, meaning that you can make your own life decisions including choosing where you live without your parent’s permission. If you leave home at 18, your parents cannot file a runaway report for you. The only way they could file a missing person’s report for you is if they think you were abducted or that something bad happened to you. So you might leave a note or let them know you are safe after you leave to protect against them filing a missing person’s report. Legally, they cannot force you to stay home once you are a legal adult. It sounds like you have already been planning a lot to move out; which is smart. You might make sure that you are able to provide for your basic needs and that you have somewhere to go before you leave home.

          It is hard to say what could happen to your stuff once you leave home. It is possible that your parents could take your items once you leave, so you might bring all your valuables and vital documents with you when you do leave. You do have the option of trying to get a police escort into your house, if your parents will not allow you to get your things once you are 18. However, that is depended on individual police response and the situation.

          Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you would like to talk more about your situation.

          Best of luck,

          NRS"

      • #86
        I seriously can not stand being at home much longer. The constant shaming from my mom does not stop. I am 18 with a job, and I am still seen and treated as a child who is not liberated to her decisions. My boyfriend and his family have been generous enough to let me stay with them until I move back to my dorm for the fall semester. The thing is though, my mom knows where they live and I fear that she will show up and force me out of the house. What can I do? I want to leave, it is what is best for my emotional health.

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hello,

          Thank you for your post. It sounds like you have had a really tough time with your mom, and it is totally understandable that you would not want to return to a household where you are constantly shamed or denied the ability to make decisions for yourself. WE are here to listen and help you in any way that we can. We are not legal experts, but we can give you some general info. Luckily, since you are 18, you are considered a legal adult. This means your mom has no legal authority over you anymore, and you can live wherever you want to without consulting her. It sounds like you have a safe place to stay with your boyfriend’s family until you move back into the dorms, which is great. If your mom shows up where you are staying and tries to harass you or make you go home, you don’t have to go with her. If you fear for your safety or she won’t leave, you could always call law enforcement, however hopefully it wouldn’t come to that since you don’t have any obligation under the law to do what she says. If she were to call police on you, they wouldn’t do anything because you are a legal adult. If you have questions or you need to talk through this situation, you can always call or chat us. We are here to support you in any way that we can. We are looking forward to hearing from you if you need us, and wish you the best of luck.

      • #87
        I'm 18 and I live in Mississippi can I legally move out to live with another family until I go to college my parents have not paid anything towards my college I can't take my dad screaming at me anymore he doesn't trust me he thinks I'm a whore and humiliates me in front of my my whole family who never defends me

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        • ccsmod2
          ccsmod2 commented
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          Hey there,

          Thanks for reaching out. Being 18 means that in most states you would be considered a legal adult. So you are most likely able to make your own decisions for where you want to live. It might be a good idea to do some research and find out what the legal age of adulthood is in your state in order to know for sure.

          Good luck,
          NRS

      • #88
        Hello, I'm a 19 year old woman who is living in an abusive house and I'm considering taking shelter at a friend's house. I'm being isolated from friends, family, everything ever since I was a child and I can't take it anymore. I'm seeing a therapist, but my home life is becoming too much and I need to escape. Can my parents call the police and report me missing if I'm in the state of Alabama? Alabama state law has 19 as their legal age but I want to make sure police won't be looking for me if I decide to bolt out of here.

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        • ccsmod6
          ccsmod6 commented
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          Hi, thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline!

          It is important you know that no one deserves to be abused, isolated or mistreated like that. In Alabama you are not considered an adult until the age of 19, you are correct. If you are contemplating running away it is important you know several things. First, running away is not a crime. Your parents or legal guardians may call the police and report that you have runaway, at which point the police will begin to look for you. Second, although you cannot get in trouble for running away if you stay with another person who is over 19 or legally an adult, that person could potentially get in trouble for letting you stay with them. Whether or not anyone would get in trouble is dependent on the police in your area and what action your parents decide to take. A good way to get informed about whether or not anyone would get in trouble for letting you stay with them is to call your local area non-emergency police. Just to confirm - if you are 19 you are considered a legal adult and can leave home without your parents' permission and they would not be able to get the police involved.

          If you would like to discuss what is going on at home or brainstorm some additional ideas, feel free to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

      • #89
        Hello,

        I am planning in moving out by the end if the month, I'm 18 as of today, I live in the state of New York. I am planning on moving in with my girlfriend til I am on my feet and ready to really start my life. My parents keep telling the court order in place will prevent me from doing this but the age of majority in NYS is 18, and court orders regarding visitation and custody terminate at 18. They have also said that they will prevent me from retrieving my belongings, if they come through with this, how would I get my belongings? (Social Security, Birth Certificate, Clothes, ect?).. I'm really nervous to go about this since it is a big decision, and I know the law but my parents won't believe me, even when I show them .gov websites.... My dad's girlfriend (more like a stepmom) also said if I move in with my girlfriend she'll practically harass me, from what she says she'll do, how do I prevent that, and how do I retrieve my belongings if they harbor them?

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        • #90
          Hi,

          Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. Each state has its own set of rules and fees for ordering certified birth certificates and other records. Rules, ordering instructions and fees for all 50 states, the District of Columbia and all other U.S states can be found here (http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/w2w.htm). Perhaps you can get in touch with your local county clerk’s office and they might be able to tell you a more solid answer on what documents are necessary to obtain your birth certificate. Other things that you can try is to contact the vital recorder office in your city and state to try to order a duplicate birth certificate or have another adult (usually family) help request one for you.

          Good luck,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
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