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  • ccsmod10
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    RE: I'm 18 and expecting a baby and I want to leave my parents house for good.

    Hello There!

    Thanks for reaching out to us!We thank you for sharing your story on our forum and acknowledge that htis may take great courage on your part. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now that you are considering leaving home as the best option for you. We hope that you are staying safe and healthy.
    We are not legal experts here, but typically being the age or over what the age of what is considered to be an adult in most states is 18. Meaning, that parents utilizing the police to return you home may not be an option as being an adult means you can legally make the decision of where you would like to live.

    If there is any way that we could better support you, you can always call us at 1800-RUNAWAY.

    Stay Strong,
    NRS

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    I'm 18 and expecting a baby and I want to leave my parents house for good.

    I'm 18 and I'm 9 weeks along and I was wondering if I could legally move out of my mom's house there is little she can do right?

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  • ccsmod14
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    Re: I want to move out

    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you have been having a difficult time at home and it’s understandable why you would want to leave. It sounds like you are frustrated with your dad’s lack of motivation to find a job, and your mom’s tendencies to be taken advantage of.

    We’re not legal experts, but generally speaking if you leave without consent from legal guardians before the age of 18, they would have the right to make a runaway report. You shared that you are 18, which in most states is the age of a legal adult which means you are in charge of making your own decisions. To be absolutely sure of the age of minority in your state, you can call your local law enforcement and just ask hypothetically. This does not require any identifying information (your first and last name, address, etc.).

    Please do not hesitate to call or chat with us to talk further about your situation. We’re here to help as much as we can.

    Best,
    NRS

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    I want to move out

    So I'm 18, I live in California and j wanna move out. Will that be alright because shouldn't 18 be considered a legal adult not placed under my parents custody anymore?? But my parents keep telling me not and keeps asking why. Basically my mom keeps lending other people to use her food stamp and won't say no so we barely have any food to eat at home and starve ourselves. My dad is lazy and doesn't wanna find work. I don't wanna stay there anymore because they think I don't understand. So, am I allowed to move out without their consent?

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  • ccsmod8
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    RE: 2 year leave, going across the border

    Hello there –

    Thank you so much for taking the time out of your day to reach out to us here on our public forum here at the National Runaway Safeline. We hope that helping you through your crisis, there are others that will be able to get help as well by reading through the thread. After reading your post it seems like you’re planning on running away to escape an abusive situation at home. It’s great that you are looking out for yourself and want to plan ahead. It can be pretty frustrating at knowing what your next step is going to be.

    Now we aren’t legal experts here at NRS, but we can provide you with some information on general runaway laws. By the age of 18 in New York you would be considered to be a legal adult. Meaning that you are able to leave your house without getting in trouble; even if you cross the border into Canada. One thing that you might want to consider is that things might be a little different in Canada than they are in the States. Depending on where you were going the legal age is either 18 or 19 years old. It also might be hard for you to get services since you aren’t a legal citizen of Canada. So getting a job or going to school might be an obstacle. But like we stated earlier we aren’t legal experts.

    There is a Canada child help line that you might be able to reach out to for more information about leaving the States and going into Canada at 18 years old. You can reach them on their website (http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/teens/home/splash.aspx) and their agency name is “Kids Help Phone.”

    If you give us a call on our 24/7 fully confidential hotline, at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we could help answer some of those questions you have and could potentially help you brainstorm a solution to the issues you are having. We also have an online chat service available every night from 4:30-11:30PM CST that is available through our website (www.1800runaway.org) if you don’t feel like calling in to talk on the phone.

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    2 year leave, going across the border

    HI I'm going to leave in two years, I know when I'm 18 I would be legally adult. Things at home are complicate,abusive brother, alcoholic father, and a controlling mother. My boyfriend said he will lick me up in two years because he lives in Canada and he thought I would be safer over there. I just want to know if my parents will still look for me and if me crossing the border will change anything legally. I live in New York by the way.

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  • ccsmod0
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    Re: I'm 18 and leaving, can my mom call the cops and report me missing?

    Hi,
    Thank you for taking the time to reach out to us at National Runaway Safeline and we hope to help you get the information you need to make decisions in this frustrating time. We want you to know we are not licensed attorneys and can only provide general answers to your question about your situation. If you want to contact us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) we can possibly connect you with legal aid that works with youth in your area and who can provide you with case specific potential consequences of leaving. Another service we offer is a chat room that is open from 4:30pm to 11:30pm/CST (www.1800RUNAWAY.org) if you feel more comfortable with text /chat.
    Because you mentioned needing help fast, so we want to provide some basic information: in 48 states a person is a legal adult at 18 and in the states of Alabama and Nebraska a youth is considered at adult at age is 19. There may be further rules when a youth is a ward of the state so we have found that the fastest information is to call your county or state office that overseas foster care or directly ask your assigned casework (If you have one).
    Best of luck.

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    I need help fast !!

    I am 18 and a word of the state I live with my aunt and uncol but I'm not happy there I want to move out but I'm scared I could still be charged as a runaway ? Is this true ?

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  • ccsmod1
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    RE: leavιng нoмe

    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us for help. We are sorry to hear that you are not being treated well at home. That sounds like a very stressful situation. We are here to listen and support you in any way we can. It sounds like you are thinking about moving out. Since you are 18, you are considered a legal adult, which means that you can move out if you want and they can’t stop you. One thing to consider is whether you have full custody of your baby. If you share custody with someone or you do not have custody rights, if you take the baby you could get in trouble. However, if you have full custody you should not have a problem as long as you can go somewhere safe and stable. We can help you find resources for somewhere to go if you want. It helps to have a plan for where you will stay, how you will survive, and how you will provide for your child once you move out. We are here to help however we can. If you have any questions or you need to talk through your situation, please don’t hesitate to call. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.

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    leavιng нoмe

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  • ccsmod14
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    Re: 18 and in Colorado

    Hi there,

    Thank you so much for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like things are really tough for you and your boyfriend. We’re sorry to hear about this. It sounds like you and your boyfriend care a lot about each other and your parents have been making it really tough. We’re glad that you reached out and shared a little bit about what’s been going on, we’re here to help out the best that we can.

    It sounds like you have turned 18, and you’re looking to move in with your boyfriend and his family. We’re not here to tell you what you should or should not do, we’re just here to help keep you safe in what you decide. It sounds like you are concerned about leaving because you feel your parents will become hit or yell at you. You do not deserve to be hit by anybody. You always have the right to call the police if you are feeling unsafe at any point.

    You talked about the idea of calling the police beforehand. This might be an option you can explore further with your local police department. If you would like assistance with this, you could call us first and we can try to brainstorm ideas of how to go about this conversation, or we could make that call out with you or on your behalf.

    We’re here 24/7 to help out in any way we can. Please do call or chat with us at (800) RUNAWAY (786 2929).

    Best,
    NRS

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    Guest replied
    18 and in Colorado

    I just turned 18 a couple days ago, and I've thought about leaving home for years. My parents are unreasonably strict and it's finally taken its toll on me. You see, I've had a boyfriend for all these years, who they never liked simply because my dad didn't want me to date and went as far as hitting him infront of me and embarrassing us both. I'm sick and tired of having to hide my relationship, which I know is a genuinely healthy, happy, loving relationship. When I move out, I don't want my parents to be following me around,or to show up trying to knock on the door at my boyfriend's house.(which yes, they know where he is, because my dad would follow him home sometimes withouttelling me, yelling at his mom to keep her son away from me)I don't want anything to do with my parents after all they've done to hurt me. My boyfriend and his family agree as well, and they want me to move in with them. On the day I move out, and my parents start to yell and hit me, will it help to call a cop?beforehand? Like would that ensure that I got out of the house with all my things safely and calmly? Once again, I don't want my parents to keep following me after I leave, my anxiety and panic attacks are bad enough as it is and I don't want them anywhere near me. What can I do?

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  • ccsmod0
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    Re: I'm 18 and leaving, can my mom call the cops and report me missing?

    Thank you for using our bulletin service.
    It is great that you were able to find a place of your own that shows a lot of maturity. We can only speak generally about a youth not living at home. Generally speaking the age of majority in most states is 18. That being said a youth should be able to move out on their own because in the eyes of the law you are technically an adult. This is just a general statement to find out definitely contact your local police department. If you do not feel comfortable contacting them you can give us a call and we can call anonymously for you.
    1-800-RUNAWAY

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    Guest replied
    HI Im 18 years old and I'm having problems at home
    I was able to find a place of my own but my question is can my parents call the police and tell them that I ran away
    I live in Los Angeles ca

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  • ccsmod16
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    Re: I'm 18 and leaving, can my mom call the cops and report me missing?

    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. We’re sorry to hear your home situation is causing you stress but it’s great that you’re trying to find answers and doing your research to improve your situation. It sounds like you’re planning on moving out once you turn 18 to live with your boyfriend and his father. We’re not legal experts here but generally speaking, when you turn 18 you are considered an adult. This means that your parents wouldn’t be able to file a runaway report if you chose to leave home. This would also mean they couldn’t force you to return home because the police would consider you an adult. Have you discussed your plan with your parents or your boyfriend? Do you think his dad would be on board with you moving in? We would love to hear more about your situation and help serve your unique needs so please don’t hesitate to give us a call any time at 1-800-786-2929 (1-800-RUNAWAY). We also have online chat services that are available from 4:30 PM-11:30 PM (CST), 7 days a week and those can be found on our website (www.1800runaway.org.
    We look forward to hearing from you and wish you luck!
    Last edited by ccsmod16; 03-21-2016, 08:06 PM.

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