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  • ccsmod15
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    Hi there,

    Thanks for reaching out! It seems like you’re going through a really difficult time right now at home. We hope we can help. For starters, in most states, the age of majority is 18. Once someone is of the age of majority, they are automatically emancipated from the state. At this point, when someone leaves home, it is not considered running away, but rather moving out. You should therefore not get in trouble for leaving home. You may want to ensure that you’ll have a safe and secure place to go if you decide to leave. You also may want to use this link to check the age of majority in your state. You can do so by finding the age of minority in your state by clicking on your state, and adding an additional year to find the age of majority: https://sexetc.org/action-center/sex-in-the-states/. In very few states is the age of majority older than 18. You can also call us at 1-800-786-2929 if you need further assistance.

    Best of luck,

    NRS

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    Hi I'm 18 I wanna get away get out my mother house I was planning on running away today but I'm sacred I might get in trouble

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you want to move out to your girlfriend’s house. We want you to know that we are not legal experts but the age of majority in most states is 18 (Nebraska and Mississippi). Since you are 18 you should be able to move out of your parents’ house. If you are concerned about them trying to stop you could request that the police escort you out.
    We hope that this information helps. If you want to give us a call to talk more about what is going on you are more than welcome to. 1-800-786-2929
    Best wishes,
    NRS

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    I’m 18 and try to move out but I’m scared to tell mom and dad so I wrote a letter to them tomorrow I’m leaving to going to my girlfriends house were I’ll be staying can mom and dad come to her house we’re I’m at and force me to leave or do I have a right to stay at her house?

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  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.
    Best of luck,
    NRS

  • ccsmod15
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    Hello,

    Thanks for reaching out to us. If you have contacted NRS today through another means (for example, live chat, email or bulletin) for the same issue, it would be helpful to let us know that you have already contacted us. NRS understands it takes courage to reach out for help; therefore, we would like to minimize the need for you to repeat your situation and avoid offering you duplicate services.
    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    Can my foster mom really call the cops on me if I runaway at 18?

    Hello. I'm turning 18 in a week and I hate my foster home. I get ridiculed a lot. I miss my home which I was taken on false accusations. My case is still open and DHS and CPS is required by law to start a transitional plan for me to move out and close my case. The problem is, they haven't and I have only a week left. I want to run when I'm 18 but DHS and CPS has told my foster mom to call the cops on me if I do. Is it legally my right to move out at 18? Can I leave regardless of what DHS and CPS say? I miss my animals and my room and my mother. I miss everything in my home and I've been depressed here and ridiculed for it and for other things. I've been waiting to turn 18 because I thought I could just age out of the system and everyone told me I would be able to. I was taken three months before turning 18. I just want out and I feel like they just want to hold on
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    Hello. I'm in foster care and my case is still open. I'm turning 18 soon and I really want to leave to go back home to my mother. The thing is, is that my foster mom said she'll call the cops on me if I runaway. My dilemma is that I'll be at the age of majority according to Michigan law so don't I have the legal right to leave? DHS and CPS were supposed to hold a meeting before I turned 18 so they could work on closing the case. They never did that which is illegal because by law they are supposed to and every time I ask they turn me down on it. They don't know what I'm talking about and I feel like I'm being misunderstood. I hate where I live now and I was taken from a good home on false accusations. I just want to runaway at 18 and go back to my real family but I don't know if it's legal. Will I really get into trouble with the cops? They already believe I'm gonna run. Should I?
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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you want to be independents and not have to stay with your family anymore. We want you to know that we are not legal experts but in most states the age or majority is 18. (Nebraska 19, Alabama 20) This means that you are legally responsible for yourself and your parents/ guardians can no longer control what you do and where you go. On the other hand your parents/guardians are no longer required to provide you with food, shelter, or financial assistance anymore. We understand that becoming an adult is a big step and we want to make sure that you know that you are supported during this time.
    Hopefully this information helped you out. If you would like further assistance, we invite you to call us any time 1-800-786-2929.
    Best of luck,
    NRS

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    I am 18 years old I got kicked out of my moms house and my dads house , my grandparents took me in and I just don’t want to be around any of my family. If I leave my grandparents house neither them nor my parents can do anything about it or try to find me right ?

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  • ccsmod6
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    Hi there, thanks for reaching out to us here at the National Runaway Safeline! From what you shared you have been through a lot and still are in tough situation which we are really sorry to hear. It sounds like CPS has been unable to help in that instance and we are really sorry to hear that. We are going to go over some plans and resources and we are always here to further discuss them or even other plans so do not hesitate to reach out to us here as we are 24/7.
    It sounds like you have been coping a lot by staying out of the house to be away from your dad. You do not deserve to be abused in anyway, including physically and verbally. You are always allowed to make as many CPS reports as you want as there is no limit to the amount. We aren’t here to define abuse but, verbal, mental, and emotional abuse is still abuse. Child Help is a great resource that can help with defining abuse and any other questions or concerns about CPS. They can be reached at 1-800-422-4453. We are always here as well and we aren’t legal experts but, we can talk about how to get CPS involved again and we can also help you make another CPS report if you are interested. We can be reached at 1-800-RUNAWAY.
    Again, it sounds like you have been coping with the situation are very close to 18 which is the usual age of adulthood in the US. We aren’t legal experts but, leaving home isn’t considered illegal but rather a status offense. This means you can’t be arrested or put in jail unless there is other circumstances like you are on parole. If you feel like you must leave and are unsafe, that is something you can do but there are risks. Your parents could file something called a runaway report meaning the police would get a report that you left home and they could try to look for you to bring you back based on the info they are provided. If they do find you, you are allowed to say you feel unsafe at home and that would involve CPS again as they should not bring you back somewhere you feel unsafe. In the same breath, some police departments do not even take runaway reports for 17 year olds, as you are 2 months away from being 18. It does depend on the discretion of the police station and even the officer. You can call into your local non-emergency police to see their policy on 17 year old runaways and ask hypothetical questions. If they make you uncomfortable and start asking specific questions you do not want to answer, you are allowed to hang up. We can also call out on your behalf with you on the line to help ask those questions if that makes you feel more comfortable. To do that, just call into us here.
    You have been dealing with a difficult situation in a very mature way and you are really brave for reaching out. We hope to hear from you again soon!
    Best, NRS

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    I’m 17 and a half and I want to move out in California
    a lot has been going on between me and my dad it has escalated to the point where we have gotten into fist fights I have contacted the police from this abuse and when the police have had arrived I didn’t have any marks left in my body from the abuse and my father used that as an advantage and said that I was the one causing problems to him and my family and he threatens to call the police on me over any simple thing family was involved and nobody seems to want to help me cps was involved in this situation and he can’t get close to me or my siblings and my mother but he still tries to find away around it by abusing us mentally and verbally but not physically it has gotten to the point where he disowned me and said that he wasn’t my father and it’s been a living hell the closer and closer I’m getting to be 18 in December which is two and a half months away I have tried all I could to get away and to spend less hours in the House by trying to join a sport which I couldn’t because my father didn’t permit it I try to stay at school for as long as I can I have two jobs I try to work as much as I can not for the money but mainly to have a reason to leave the house and stay away as much as I can

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  • ccsmod0
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    Hello, Thank you for taking the time to write to us here at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like your relationship have caused quite the riff between you and your father. It sounds like your father has been threatening you and your boyfriend. If you feel like his threats might be serious, please know that you do have the right to contact the police. You deserve to be safe. We want you to know that we are not legal experts but if you are concerned about your safety and your rights to leave home you could also talk to the police about a safety plan. You could request that they help escort you out of the house if you fear that it might get dangerous.
    You are also welcome to give us a call and we can talk through a safety plan with you as well. We want you to know that you are not alone in this and we will do whatever we can to help. 1-800-786-2929

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    Hi im female 18 just turned, i feel as if im undergoing emotional abuse in my home and i have made some pretty bad decisions with boys in the past over the phone but i am in church i do plan on going to college and i am currently seeing someone my parents do not approve of. My dad has given me multiple blind threats saying if i was to get prego my child would not see the light of day, he would beat me kill my bf if he tried to see me ect. I fear that because i am sneaking to date this boy that no one will help me but at the same time i do not wish to go threw this at my home any longer over a boy who i very much love. I also fear that my dad will ruin my life if i stay he has already told my manger at my job that i dont work there anymore because my boyfriend comes by and we hang out my parents have taken my checks and will take my permit (dont have license yet) and my dad says i will leave home when he feels im ready he said, "i could be 24 and i still couldnt leave" i need help knowing my legal rights and i fear that he will harm me or my bf if i try to leave and i fear that if i stay i will never truly leave ..... If that makes any since

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  • ccsmod1
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    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out. You ask a great question. We are not legal experts, however in general 18 is the age at which an individual can begin to make decisions for themselves about where they live. Before you turn 18, you are considered a minor, which means your parent or legal guardian is responsible for providing for you, and they can make decisions about where you live and where you are allowed to go. At 18, it is perfectly legal for you to move out in almost every state in the US, with a few exceptions where the age might be higher. Moving out on your own is a big step, and we can help you think through your options and come up with a plan. Your parents no longer have any obligation to support you financially or provide you with housing once you turn 18, so it may be helpful to think about what kinds of things you are dependent on a legal guardian for, such as health care or housing, and how you would provide these things for yourself in case your legal guardian decides to cut you off if you leave without talking to them first. If you need to talk or you need any resources, don't hesitate to give us a call or chat with us online. We are looking forward to hearing from you soon, and wish you the best of luck.
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