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  • Reply: I’m a 17yr old girl turning 18...

    Hello,
    Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

    We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. Once you are 18 you are considered a legal adult which in general means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have the right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone.
    It sounds like you are taking some steps towards independence by exploring employment opportunities. Moving with your grandparents sounds like your first option but there might be some issues between them and your mother if you were to do so. We understand that you don’t want there to be any friction between them but you do not have hold yourself responsible for her decisions.

    As a second option it might also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently; such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as an emergency shelter where young adults can stay temporarily and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
    We ae here to support you during this difficult time. We would be happy to assist you with exploring some options for support services in your area.

    Please contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

    We look forward to hearing from you.

    Take care,
    NRS

    We hope this response was helpful! We’d love to hear from you about your experience using our crisis email/forum. Your feedback plays an important role in helping us improve our services to youth and families. Please click the link to fill out our survey: Your Opinion Matters to Us
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    • I am terrified of doing this, I recently turned 18 in Pennsylvania (in January) and I want to move out, I have been researching what I can and cannot do since I am 18, but my mom wants to keep me here. I don't want to stay, they are not supportive of my dream job or if I told them I am gay and have a secret boyfriend. I have no phone I can use and she will take away and probably destroy the tablet I have and am currently using to write this.
      I don't want to leave though and cause chaos for my family, but I know that my mom cannot financially support me with a place to live and a job should I move out on my own.

      I also do not have any friends even in my state that I can go and live with should I choose to move out.
      Can I have some assistance? Because I don't want to runaway, and I don't want my mom making my life hell or my siblings live he'll because I moved out.

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      • ccsmod9
        ccsmod9 commented
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        Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.
        Often, having a safe space to share how you’re feeling may bring a variety of solutions previously not thought of. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. This may be an isolating and lonely time for you, but you are not alone in this. We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time.
        If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon. Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
        We hope to hear from you soon.
        Be safe and stay strong,
        NRS

    • Im 16 and im waiting on the day I turn 18 to leave. I dont live with my parents my aunt and uncle have legal custody of me. She keeps telling me I have to be emancipated even when I turn 18 before I can leave. I live in ohio just looking for some answers.

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      • ccsmod2
        ccsmod2 commented
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        Hi there. Thanks so much for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline and sharing a brief part of your story with us. It seems as though you may be a bit concerned about what the laws are about leaving the home without parental consent. Although we are not legal experts in the state of Ohio the age of majority is 18 years old. This means you have the liberty to go as you please once you are at the age of majority and emancipation is not required. If you wanted to leave beforehand without parental consent then in that case emancipation would then be an option. We hope this information was helpful and would love to discuss your situation a bit further. If you are feeling up to it, please feel free to give us a call at 1800-runaway or come chat with us at 1800runaway.org. Best of luck, NRS.

    • I’m 18 years old with a little boy that’s almost 2 if I wanna leave home can I? She always says she’ll call the cops and report me missing but I’m 18 with a child can she do that?

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      • ccsmod2
        ccsmod2 commented
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        Hello There,
        Thank you for contacting The National Runaway Safeline, we are here to help and here to listen. We are not legal experts but we do have general knowledge of the laws. In most states the age of majority is 18, which means an 18 year old can legally leave home without permission. So to answer your question, yes in most states you are allowed to leave home. If your mother filed a missing person’s report you can call the non-emergency police and let them know that you are not missing. You would not legal trouble for leaving home at 18.
        We hope this answered your question, and we were able to help you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to talk more please give us a call we are here 24/7. We wish you the best of luck!
        NRS

    • I am 18 and I don't want to live in my parents’ house any longer due to too much stress and fighting and I’m not telling my mom. I will be leaving in about an half an hour and I want to know if my parents can do anything to get me back home or do something to the people. I’ll be living with its my boyfriend’s mom and dad I have told my mom that I want to accept a job from them and that it is a live in position and they refused to let me so now I'm gonna do it and go to the police station to write an affidavit and even get a restraining order if I have to if they threaten me again please help I’m stressed out and scared.
      Last edited by ccsmod4; 02-28-2019, 12:53 AM.

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      • Im 18 and want to move out but my preants wont let me what should i do ?........

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        • ccsmod2
          ccsmod2 commented
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          Hello There,
          Thank you for reaching out to The National Safeline, we are here to listen and provide support. We are not legal expert but we will do our best to try and help you the best we can. Generally, at 18 years old one is considered an adult and is allowed to leave home without permission. If you have a safe place to go and your parents are not letting you leave you have a few options you can consider. One option you could consider is calling your local police department and letting them know your situation. Sometimes if your parents are not allowing you to leave they will send a police escort to help you leave safely. Another option is we offer conference calling where we help you have a conversation if you call us we call out to your parents. Conference calling allows you to be heard and we are there to provide support.
          We hope this information will be helpful to you in your situation. If you have any other questions or would like to talk more please give us a call. We are here 24/7 to listen and provide support. We wish you the best of luck
          NRS

      • Can my mom lock me up if i'm 18 and don't want to stay with her anymore?

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        • ccsmod15
          ccsmod15 commented
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          Hello,
          Thank you for reaching out to us during this difficult time. Although we are not legal experts, in most states you are considered a legal adult at 18. Even if your mom was to call the police you are considered an adult and cannot be forced to stay home. You can call us at the National Runaway Safeline at 1-800-786-2929 at any time if you would like to talk more about your situation.

      • Hello. I realize this (thread?) might be outdated, but I’m going with the assumption that it’s still active. I’m 17 right now, and living in Mississippi. I turn 18 this June, and I want to move away from home. Some close friends and I are looking to share a house in Tupelo, which isn’t far away. It would be four of us altogether, and each of us are pulling income, so financially, we’re good. Not only that, but I am in college, and am working towards a degree in English, and secondary education. Despite the fact that I am in college, am generating about 1,000$ a month on my own, and will be 18 at the time, I’ve been told by my mother and others that that I cannot move until I am 25, of all times. Not only that, but because my mother has outstanding debts, any leases I would try and get would default. How much of this is true? And does she have any power to stop me if this shows that I am financially stable?

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        • ccsmod5
          ccsmod5 commented
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          Thank you for contacting the National Runaway Safeline. First of all, it sounds like you have a great life you have built for yourself outside of your issues at home. This is certainly something to be proud of. As far as the legality of leaving home, according to Mississippi law you need to be 21 to leave home. The details and risks of this would be best left to a lawyer. Calling a legal aid agency would allow you to talk to a lawyer for free. Emancipation may be an option.
          As far as your lease is concerned, you may not have a credit score. If your friends have good credit, or can prove their income is much higher than the rent, you may be able to sign the lease. Talking to a financial advisor at your bank would also be a free option for some detailed advice. We wish you the best, and hope things turn out well for you. Please don’t hesitate to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY if you would like to talk further.

      • Can your parents call the cops if you move out at 18 but still in school in the state of Texas

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        • ccsmod2
          ccsmod2 commented
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          Hi there. Thanks for joining the forum. It sounds like you have or are planning to leave home soon. Although we are not legal experts the age of majority in Texas is 18. This typically means that you have the liberty to leave or move out of your parents’ home with or without permission. This should be regardless if you are a student or not. If you would like to talk a bit more about your situation please feel free to reach out to us via phone at 1800-runaway or come chat with us at 1800runaway.org. All the best, NRS.

      • I’m 17, but in Texas the legal age to get kicked out is 17 , if my mom kicked me out can she make me come ? or can she call the police and file a report that I’m missing and do charges on me ?

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        • ccsmod0
          ccsmod0 commented
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          Hello,
          Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. We are not legal experts nor are we affiliated with the police so we can only speak generally about what could happen if a youth leaves home without the consent of a guardian. Leaving home without parental consent (running away) is not a crime, so the police will not arrest you. If you do leave home without permission your guardian does have the right to file a runaway report. Running away is not a crime it is a status offence (something that only a minor can get in trouble for: truancy, buying cigarettes, etc.) this means that if you have any interaction with the police they will simply return you home. On the other hand the people that you are found to be staying with could face legal consequences that vary depending on your state. You can find out more about how runaway’s reports are carried out by contacting your local police department.
          We want you to know that we are here as support to help you through this challenging time. If there is anything that you think we can do to help, please let us know.
          Best wishes,
          NRS

      • Hi ,I am 23 yrs . And things at my home are going so bad .. So I decided to leave home and I have told my decision to my parents and they said they will loage F.I.R against me of running away .. Also they won’t be giving me my documents back .. I want to know is their any law of legally taking my documents back from them as I want to go out and work independently.

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        • ccsmod9
          ccsmod9 commented
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          Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. Moving can be a huge step, and you don’t have to be alone. Some steps you can take towards independence might be to find employment if you don’t have an income, or to save up money for moving expenses. It can also be helpful to research rents in your area, find a roommate, or make a budget. Another thing you might want to consider is what kinds of things you depend on your parents for currently such as tuition expenses for school, or health insurance, and whether they would continue to provide those things after you leave. There may be social service agencies in your area that can help meet some of these needs, such as Transitional Living Programs, a kind of shelter where young adults can live and get services to help them transition to independent living. We are here to listen and help however we can.

      • Hi Im 17 Year Old This Time I Cross My 18 Age In 10 Day means 15 may 2019 Im 18 Year Old My Mom and dad Did Not Give Me a freedom of I Leave Them . after I Am Turning 18 Year Old

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        • ccsmod1
          ccsmod1 commented
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          Hey there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are in a difficult situation, and we understand it takes courage to reach out for help. The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.

          We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country.

          Best of luck,
          NRS

      • I’m 18, I don’t know what to my parents want me to send me back to my country. Their holding me down I can’t see my boyfriend at all, my sisters blackmailed and me as well. My parents believe them, and yesterday my sister told my dad about my past well the tip of the iceberg. I want to runaway I really do. It’s the point where I’m constantly feeling depressed and sad. My dreams have shown me death. I have no one to talk to at home, I’m judged at home. I don’t know who to go to if I runaway and I don’t have family

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        • ccsmod0
          ccsmod0 commented
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          Hello,
          The National Runaway Safeline is located in the United States of America (USA). Our knowledge of helpful community based resources and our understanding of youth in crisis related laws is limited to the USA. If you are located in a country outside of the USA, you can use this link to find a youth helpline in or around your country: https://www.childhelplineinternation...pline-network/.
          We hope that by reaching out to a local resource, you are able to get the support you need from an organization that understands the laws and circumstances that affect youth in your country

      • I am 18 years old I want move out can my mom call cops and report me missing?
        Last edited by ccsmod4; 06-01-2019, 01:39 AM.

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        • Reply: I am 18 years old

          Hello,
          Thank you for writing to us here at the National Runaway Safeline.

          Since you are 18 you are more than likely considered a legal adult which means that you can move out if you want to and you won’t be considered a runaway or missing. As a legal adult, you have a right to make your own decisions about where you live. if by chance you are reported as missing you can contact the police to assure them of your safety and that you are not missing.
          We can help you make a plan for how to deal with your situation and help you find resources to land on your feet. Having a plan for where you will live and how you will survive once you move out can be very helpful. NRS is here to help and here to listen. If you would like to talk more about your situation, please contact 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800runaway.org

          Take care,
          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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