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  • i live in Alabama. i am 18 and will be 19 in November. i don't want to live at my parents house anymore. my boyfriend is also 18. he helped me leave. it is illegal to move out of your parents house? can my parents legally press charges on me for running away and kidnapping charges on my boyfriend for helping me leave and letting me stay at his house? is it legal for me just to leave?

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    • ccsmod7
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      Hi there, thanks for reaching out today. Sounds like you have moved in with your boyfriend and are worried about what legal actions your parents might take.

      Alabama has the majority age of 19; which means it is the legal age you become an adult and can make your own decisions. However, the federal majority age is a year younger at 18. Therefore, it is up to local police with how they interpret the law and whether or not they would take a runaway report for a 18 year old.The best way to know how local police would respond to your situation is to call your local police and ask if they would take a runaway report for an 18 year old. If they will not take a runaway report for you, there is no legal action your parents can take and it would be considered moving out rather than running away. If they do take a runaway report for you and you are found by police they would typically return you home. There is something called harboring a runaway; which is a charge your parents can press against the legal adult who knowingly houses you as a runaway. So if local police would say that you are a runaway minor at 18; they would also consider your boyfriend a minor at 18 and he could not be charged with harboring a runaway as a minor.

      Please do not hesitate to call or chat us if you have more questions or if you need assistance reaching out to local police.

      We look forward to hearing from you.

      Best,

      NRS

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  • I just turned 18 & it’s towards the end of my junior year of high school. I don’t want to live with my mom and her boyfriend because I really dislike him and I just don’t feel comfortable here anymore. And this summer my mom is letting me go to my girlfriends over the summer and I’ve been wanting to move in with her and stay when I go over there. And my mom says that I have to come back like she’s forcing me to come back. And I really don’t want to come back at all. What can i do

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      Hello there, thanks for reaching out.

      In most states, the legal age you become an adult also known as the majority age is 18. However there are a few states with older majority ages such as Mississippi, Nebraska, and Alabama. To make sure that you can legally leave at 18, you might look up your current state's majority age. You want to look up the majority age in the state you are currently in, the state where your parents would attempt attempt to contact to the police to list you as a runaway. If your state's majority age is 18, you cannot be forced to return home after leaving regardless if you leave the state or not. If you are considered a legal adult, police will not take a runaway report for you and you have the right to live on your own. You might leave a note or contact your parents without letting them know where you are to tell them that you are safe, just so they do not think you have been abducted or something bad has happened to you and try to report you as a missing person.

      Please do not hesitate to call or chat if you have additional questions or if you need any support. We are here 24/7.

      Best, NRS

  • My family has left me to die they left a note saying that they are sorry they say in the note that they wish things could be better if they tried they feel this should be the better option then abusing me and leaving me to suffer do you think this is ok? do I just get help? should I just keep trying to live on like nothing has happened? I feel like I have done everything I have gone to every place to get help but nothing worked. I am a foster kid who lost everything and I have lost my birth parents to one car accident and that was my dad I lost for my birth mom I lost her when I was younger but I still remember her death until this day she got stabbed by my older brother who said it's my fault for being born. How old am I? I am 17 years old. please I need someone who can help or something to get past this thank you
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      Hello there, thank you so much for reaching out. Sounds like you have been through more than anyone else should have to go through and we so admire your bravery. It looks like you also reached out over email. Please see our email and call or chat us if you have any other questions or needs support.

      We are concerned for your safety and we truly want to help. We hope to hear from you soon,

      NRS

  • I live in buffalo ny can my mom call the cops on me and take and or keep my belongings for her self and can she file a missing child report i am 18

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    • ccsmod11
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      Thanks for reaching out. We are so sorry you’re going through this.

      We are not legal experts, but no, she cannot. You are 18 and no longer under guardianship. So she cannot file a missing child report.

      No one can call the cops on someone for no reason. There has to be a crime of some kind. And no one can take someone else’s belongings. That is theft.

      It sounds like you’re dealing with a really tough situation. Sometimes a support network can help you get through it. Consider if you have friends or other relatives you can reach out to who can trust your side of the story, or who you could even stay with.

      Everyone deserves to be in a safe and supportive environment. Feel free to call us if you’d like to talk through this situation further.

  • I'm 18 and i live in Alabama, I'm thinking about getting out of the house and I have a place to go. But I'm worried about how to tell my mom and dad about it and are they able to file a missing report? If I dont tell them

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      Thank you for reaching out to us here at National Runaway Safeline. We understand that it takes courage to seek help. It sounds like you are thinking about leaving home. In the state of Alabama, a person must be 19 before they can leave home without parental consent. You could try asking your parents if they would allow you to leave. Here at NRS, we offer conference calls between youth and their parents. This could be an opportunity for you to discuss to your parents how you feel with the help of an NRS worker. Another option that you have is contacting your local police department to ask about their runaway policy. If you parents decide to file a missing person report, you could call the police and let them know you are safe. We hope that this information helps, please feel free to contact us directly via our 24 hour crisis hotline (1-800-786-2929), email, or live chat if you have any other questions or just want to talk.

  • i going to turn 18 can my parent call the cop if i want to leave?

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      Hi there,

      Thanks for reaching out to NRS!

      We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. It’s brave of you to reach out during your time of need.

      There must be a lot going on at home if you're wanting to leave, we're here to talk. Once you turn 18 you're considered a legal adults in most states (other than Alabama, Mississippi, and Nebraska). Once you turn 18, you can to leave your home and not be considered a runaway. Your parents can’t stop you from moving out.

      Our safeline is open 24/7. We also have a chatting service via our website, unfortunately, it is not always open. The best way to contact us would be to call in and talk with our trained liners.

      Be well, NRS

  • I live in Puerto Rico and I’m 18 years old , is it legal for me to move out of my parents house without their permission?

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    • ccsmod6
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      Hi there,
      Thank you for writing to us here at National Runaway Safeline (NRS). We understand it takes great courage to reach out, and we appreciate you sharing a little bit about what’s going on. It seems there is a lot that you are faced with right now and you’re feeling like leaving is one of your only options. It seems you want to know some information on runaway laws.
      While we are not experts on the law, 18 is generally the age that an individual may leave home without parent permission. If you are under 18 and leave home, your parent/guardian may file you as a runaway and you may be returned home. Also, those you stay with may run the risk of being charged with harboring a runaway. For more specifics on the law, the local non-emergency police or legal aid may better answer legal questions. Because you live in Puerto Rico and we are not legal experts nor have much information on where you stay, reaching out to your non-emergency police or court system to confirm this information may be very beneficial just to confirm.
      We are here as support to help through this challenging time. We can best help by phone or chat as NRS is unable to respond more than twice by email to assist you. If you would like to talk more in detail please call or chat soon.
      Our contact information is 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929); www.1800runaway.org (click on the chat button).
      If you are at risk of any danger or feeling unsafe, we encourage you to reach out to 911 or seek emergency assistance immediately.
      Be safe,
      NRS

  • Im 20 years old and have tried to leave home multiple times. Every time my mom finds me because she taps my phone and then forces me back home. This last time she has taken my phone, one I bought and paid for and have my own plan for that's completely separate from hers. She's locked me in the house and threatens me everytime I make an attempt to leave. She has friends in the legal system, lawyers, cops, judges, and etc. She threatens to get me taken into custody and put in rehab or a psych ward if I try to leave. She mentally and emotionally abuses me. She's even listed off the addresses of almost all of my friends when she had never been to their houses and threatens to find me if I leave. What can I legally do about this? I'm scared of what will happen if I do leave. She believes that the Ohio law states that she is legally bound and responsible for me until the ages of 21-26, but is that true?

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    • Hi there,

      Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We're sorry to hear abut all that has been going on and want you to know that you deserve to feel safe and happy in your home. We are not legal experts, but at 18 you are considered a legal adult and can leave home. Your mom does not have the legal right to keep you home. You would be able to call the police and they could help escort you out if you are having a hard time leaving.

      If you want help finding programs for young adults that provide housing and often employment help and counseling, like transitional living programs and AmeriCorps, don't hesitate to give us a call at 1-800-786-2929.

      Best,

      NRS
      Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

      National Runaway Safeline
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      1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

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      • Hello I’m 18 abd live in Massachusetts. and I’m in process to have my papers. Right now I live with my half sister who is my legal guardian. It’s been 3 years that I live with her. I’m tiref of pretending that I’m happy with her, she doesn’t treat me right. And today I made a decision to live the house. Can she call the cops on me because I don’t have my papers ?

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        • Hi there,

          Thank you for reaching out to us at the National Runaway Safeline. We are not legal experts, but at 18 you are considered a legal adult and would be able to leave home and your guardian without the police returning you home. She could possibly file a missing person report, but you can avoid that by leaving a note saying you're safe or by calling the police and telling them that you are not missing. If you want help going through this option or want someone to talk to, we are 24/7 at 1-800-786-2929.

          Good luck,

          NRS
          Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

          National Runaway Safeline
          [email protected] (Crisis Email)
          1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          Tell us what you think about your experience!
          https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/YourOpinionMattersToUs

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          • I'll be turning 18 in April and ever time I tell my mom that she gets mad is there anything she can do to hold be back from moving out when I want to leave

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              Hello there,

              Thank you for reaching out to NRS and sharing what’s going on with you. We are sorry to hear about your situation. Although NRS is not a legal agency, we can answer your questions to the best of our ability. As for your rights as an 18 year old, except for a few states, you are legally considered an adult and therefore have the freedom to go where you wish. And as such, your mother cannot file a missing person’s report as an attempt to prevent you from leaving. If you feel that your mother would be an impediment to your moving, you can also call the non-emergency number to see if the police could provide an escort for you to get the things you need from home.

              If you would like to talk about other resources and support, feel free to call our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or use our Live Chat. We also offer a conference calling option if you feel that you would like to have us mediate a conversation between yourself and your mother.

              We hope this information was helpful and take care.
              National Runaway Safeline
              [email protected] (Crisis Email)
              1-800-RUNAWAY (24 Hour Hotline)

          • I am 19 years old and my mama won’t let me go outside all I want be able to spend time with my friends but she won’t let me all I do is sit in the house and I am getting fed up am I going to be a run away

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            • ccsmod5
              ccsmod5 commented
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              Hi,
              Thank you for reaching out. It must be frustrating that you aren’t allowed the freedom that you’re looking for. We aren’t legal experts, but in most states the age of majority is 18; generally, if you choose to leave home as a 19-year-old you would not be considered a runaway. Thank you again for reaching out. If you have additional questions or want to talk about your situation, please feel free to reach out to us by phone at 1-800-786-2929.
              Stay safe!
              NRS

          • Hello, I was wondering if my parents could call the police on me if I’m over 18 and autistic but still can function on my own and make my own choices I left before and we got in a big fight and they threatened to call the police on me if I didn’t come home I was scared so I came home the first time but things at home just keep getting worse I live in Utah.

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            • ccsmod10
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              Hey there,

              Thanks for reaching out to NRS!

              We are always here to listen and here to help in any way that we can. It can be very frustrating not knowing what to do or what your next step might be from this point on. It’s brave of you to reach out during your time of need.

              It sounds like home life is getting too much to handle and you’re wanting to be more independent. It’s understandable that want to get out in the world and life your life!

              We’re not legal experts ourselves and we do offer to call out to police with youth through our conference calling services. Since you’re 18, you should be considered a legal adult in the legal world. Unless your parents have extended guardianship over you due to your autism but you would have had to go to court for them to get that. At 18 you’re considered a legal adult in the eyes of the law. We have a database of resources and if you’re able to call in, we can try to brainstorm with you and get a better idea of your situation. If you need somewhere to stay, we can try to find a housing program in your area. Unfortunately, we are non-directive at NRS, and can't give out advice, but we're always here to talk and listen.

              Our safeline is open 24/7. We also have a chatting service via our website, unfortunately, it is not always open. The best way to contact us would be to call in and talk with our trained liners.

              Be well, NRS

          • So I'm 15 and I was adopted when I was seven. My biological sister turned 18 two days ago and I cannot live in my house without her, I need her. She's always been with me my whole life and throughout foster care. The house I live in now isn't good. I like my parents but they can be abusive towards my other non biological sister. Even though they may not be hitting me I see it happen so much I'm scared to go near them sometimes. I genuinely don't feel safe at my house. I auffsu from depression and anxiety both really bad along with possible ocd and an eating disorder but my parents don't give a ********. There's always so much yelling and hitting, the cops are always at my hiuho in fact they even came there today. I'm thinking about talking to guidance in my school to see if there's any way I can get out if my house, it doesn't have to be permanent it could be for a couple months I just need to get out. The school does know about some stuff that goes on in my house but it really does effect me. I'll openly admit this here that I do abuse drigs because of where I live. Ive been wanting to run away since I first got there when I was younger. If the school can't offer me any help and if I can't legally leave my hiuho for some time, I think I'm gonna run away. I have already thought out where I'm gonna go. I don't want to do this because I fear I'll lose control of myself but staying in my house is far worse. I've already tried to kms twice already and both times I never went to the hospital so I have nothing to back me up if I say I tried because my mom wouldn't take me because "that's what I deserved for downing a bunch of pills". Please please someone let me know if it's worth even talking to the school about leaving my house. I understand people have it far worse but I can't even explain half the ******** that goes on. I'd do anything to leave that house. I'd get clean if that's what it took, idI throw out my lighters and everything. It's not just the people in my house, it's the house in general. Every single room is associated with a bad memory multiple bad memories and I can't take it. I feel like if I stay there I'm gonna get worse. I feel I'm just gonna get more addicted to things, and I just don't feel safe. Just because I'm not being hit doesn't mean it doesn't effect me. I'm scared to go near them when I'm mad, I'm scared to do anything because I fear if I mess up I'm gonna get hit, even tho my parents promise they never would...emotions can get the best of you and ik that. If there's another way out let me know, please. I don't want to run away and leave everyone I live behind but if that's what it comes down to I will.

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