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    I really dont know where to begin aside from the fact that me and my mom have never really had the best relationship, im not going to say it was bad but it definitely could have been better...she is kinda of a workaholic so she is constantly at work and doesnt really spend to much time at home unless it is for sleep. She even told me on my birthday that she couldnt take the day off even though she had vacation time because she wouldnt get paid the same amount. Now i am not poor i live in a pretty good house for my mom to be a single mother. But i guess you could say growing up in a house w/o my father being there all the time, and my mom first priority being work, i was a little neglected. That didnt really bug me 2 much i dont need that much attention all the time but my mom recently got a new boyfriend and she spends more time with him than she does at work and at home, and the only time she is at home now is when he is there, she even took the whole week off (for god knows what reason!) and did nothing but go out to eat with him and then came back here and he would spend the night...she has even was talking about getting married to him to my aunt and maybe having children (they have been dating for THREE months and she has her tubes tied, which i have seen her look up tubal reversal on yahoo) i asked her why she wanted to have kids at such a late age (39) and she said cus she feels like "she didnt get it right the first time".... how could she say that?! i am so sick of being in this house with him when she has absolutely no compassion for her daughter who came first in her life, and i want to leave i seriously want out i cant stand another day in this house, and i want to leave when i turn 17 (state law considers me an adult) which is in less than 4 months with my boyfriend who is going to be 18 at the end of this month and is coming into some money for the occasion (we have been together for over a year) my thing is am i over reacting i just cant believe that my mom cares more about her relationship with some guy that has been in her life for less than 6 months than she does her own daughter and i swear im not jealous, she can have a boyfriend but how could she sit there and tell me she doesnt have time for me because EVERYTHING is more important...i just feel like i am a waste of her time and it just really hurts...

  • #2
    Re: Mom's New Boyfriend

    Hello,

    Thank you for reaching out to us with your story and we hope that we can provide some insights to you in this time of need. We imagine this to be a very difficult time for you so you do not have to be hard on yourself for venting. Everything you spoke of is certainly valid and you certainly have your reasons for seeking advice outside of your family. We are not in a position to give advice since we only deal with crisis situations but you do deserve someone who is going to listen to you and be of support to you at this point.

    It sounds like you care a lot about your mother and hope that both of you can start on a new slate if that is something she is able to figure in time. The reality of it is that it is never to late to reach out to one another but it looks like it is going to take a lot of effort on your part. However, it sounds like you have done a great deal to get her to give you attention but she is not willing to find the time. It is good to hear that you are passed certain hang ups in the relationship and just wants to move forward in whatever direction that is most empowering for you. It is obvioulsy not fair to you to be told such harsh things by your mother. Would you have stuck around if she kept working long hours and if she didn't have this new relationship? The most important thing at this point is that you figure out a plan of action for if and when you do choose to leave home. It sounds like your mind is made up for what you have planned with your boyfriend. Where do you plan to go and how do you plan to live? What is your expectation for what life is going to be like when you leave home and what do you expect it to be if you decided to return? How much money is your boyfriend coming into and how long do you plan to live off this money? These are just a few of the things for you to consider in the meantime.

    One of the things you focus on is the life your mother had and ways she has changed recently. Is it possible to set up a time for you and her to relax and talk about ways you could be included in that relationship? Is it something you are willing to do? Are there ever moments for quality time at your house? How eager are you still for mending the relationship with your mother? There are going to be certain things that you cannot change or control such as who your mother dates and where she goes. However, you do not deserve to be told that you could be easily replaced. Is it possible that she is simply trying to get a rise out of you just to see how you are going to react? Some people just do not fully understand the power of words but you are certainly in a position to choose what is right for you since you are allowed to do what you want in your state once you turn seventeen. Are your willing to wait until that day comes or do you plan on leaving right away? In most states it is not a crime to runaway but if you run before that legal age it sometimes puts you in the way of dodging the law and makes you want to live off the radar for some time. It only gives you a status of a runaway if your mother filed for you if you run before you are legally an adult. If and when you run, it is usually the responsibility of the cops to return you home if you are found but only you are capable of knowing for sure how soon you must leave. Are there other alternatives to staying home? Have you thought about other ways to go around the issue of dealing of your mother? We are here for you if you simply need someone to listen to you. You can reach us at our 1800runaway number and we are here 24 hours a day. We hope that you take this time to empower yourself and that you remain safe. We look forward to hearing from you. Good Luck.

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    • #3
      Re: Mom's New Boyfriend

      i did kind of want to vent, i am not planning on leaving before the age of 17 since my mother has told me to "get out of her house" before and when i did i guess she immediately regretted it and called the police and said i had ran away...im not in the mood to do that again, but i am ready to tell her that (if she even asks) that when he moves in i am moving out so she can either way till i am 17 or not. i even told myself that if she didnt even have the consideration to ask me how i feel about him living here before he moves in than i really dont care anymore and that im out, i have a job and my boyfriend does too. the money he is getting on his birthday is more of a quick start for the both of us and we both agreed not to spend a penny of our money until the day...I am not really in the position where i want to repair a relationship with my mother mainly because i am hurt and upset with her for isolating me in my own house and the tension between us is unbearable, i feel the only way we can be better is for us to take a break and let me leave for a while, the way i see it is if she wants to cut her relationships off with her family and friends over a guy cus she feels he is more important than thats just what she will have when he isnt there and thats fine with me...

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      • #4
        Re: Mom's New Boyfriend

        Hello,

        Thank you for replying so quickly as it shows your commitment to resolving this situation in the best possible way. Your positive attitude towards this difficult situation is certainly encouraging as it shows that you are very mature and there could very well be light at the end of the tunnel for you in this dilemma. It sounds like you and your boyfriend are a great team and you two has a lot going for both of you. With everything that is happening with you it is good that you do have someone to reply on.

        Maybe it is of benefit to both you and your mother that you are at the point that you see this situation as one that could only solve itself with taking space away from it all. Sometimes it takes having the courage to move on to change things and you certainly have the right approach to the issue. You are right in that you deserve to have a say about how your world is being affected and certainly having a stranger move into your space is something that needs delicate attention. Afterall, you are still a minor and you do deserve to feel safe in your own home. What your mother did when she asked you to leave does not make you a "runaway" it makes you a "throwaway". It also makes you a throwaway if someone in your home is making it hard for you to live there or is preventing you from feeling like you can live at home. We are not sure how this situation relates to you but it is something that you deserve some reconciliation around.

        Overall, it sounds like you do have a good plan of action for when the time comes to leave. However, that is a few months from now and you still have to figure out ways to distract yourself from it all and come up with some ideas for how you are going to survive it. Afterall, you are still coming to terms with all the changes in your life and it deserves some nurturance from someone who can weave the tapistry together in your mind. If you are interested in counseling or family therapy, we are here 24 hours a day and could provide you with free referrals to organizations in your area. In the meantime, try to stay strong and we will be thinking about you here to NRS. Good luck.

        -NRS
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        • #5
          My life the same way.My mom was married for 23years and her hubby cheated on her with my moms besfriend.So,on my part i hsd to cut her some slack and give her some time to be,you know,wild.My mom was always a workaholic.We never did anything together.Which i never realized was bad until i started to grow up and see that other moms and there daughter were really close.My mom had a long streach of doing things wild.Every weekend she would get drunk with her friends and have a pool party.She wasnt the shyest person on earth so she had loads of friends.I let her have her space and do what she wanted, because i knew that she was just trying to get rid of the hurt.It never really bothered me until we went to this hotel for spring break and she met this guy..........todd.He was all over my mom.I was in the hotel with my friend and right of front of me my mom was making out with todd.He was sticking his hand in her pants , it was just plain nasty.She never really got out much.Most of the time people would just come to her.So,this one night i had my friend over and my mom and her mom are like bestfriends and they go to a wedding ceramony.They dont get back till like 4 or so in the morning and they bring this guy home.This guy is a total doush bag ,hes like 30 and hes wearing vans, hollister shirt,cargos and a DC hat.My moms like 46 btw.I wake up in the middle of the night to go get water and hes in there,he looks at me like im mental.And he says "who the hell is she?"I was like half awake so i just give him the look and go on my marry way.After a few days of him being there i was already sick of him.Me and my friend decide to go to the park for a few hours(parents to drunk to realize anything.)We snuck back in the house and run into my moms room to to grab a few things,and i look out the window and see my moms and lmy friend's mom making out.Btw my friend's mom is married to and army man and hes gone like half of the time.They started doing really nasty things until the started having a threesome.A few months later this guy comes back.ON MY [language] BIRTHDAY. My mom has that same guy over.
          Last edited by ccsmod7; 07-14-2011, 11:17 AM. Reason: language and confidentiality

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          • #6
            RE: Mom's New Boyfriend

            Thanks so much for writing in and sharing your story with us. It sounds like you are dealing with so much right now with your mom and hopefully it helps to be able to vent a bit about what’s going on. It’s understandable how frustrated you are with your mom’s behavior and it sounds like she is not being conscience of your feelings in these situations. Have you ever tried to speak with your mom about this? What happens when you bring up the fact that you are uncomfortable with some of her behaviors? Sometimes it’s helpful to know that there may be others dealing with similar situations as yourself and we are happy that you felt comfortable enough to share a bit of your story.

            We want to let you know that if you would like to discuss your situation more in depth you can always contact us here at the National Runaway Switchboard. Our hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929), is available 24 hours a day and completely confidential. There is always someone available to listen, provide support, discuss options, and even find resources in your area. We also have an online chat that is currently available from 4:30p-10:00p CST. During that time you can talk with a trained chat volunteer who can provide the same support and resources as we can through our hotline number. Please feel free to reach out to us anytime. Take care.
            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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            • #7
              Moms new boyfriend

              Hi I just want to vent here and say that my mom has a boyfriend and ever since she started dating him she doesn't listen to me when I talk she's always texting him and when I say mom wanna go do something no I can't but she can sit and text all day. I have no friends im a high functioning autistic teen of 17. Next year I'm getting my own place. But I will never speak to my mother after I move out she has put me through hell in whole 17 years of my life I will never forgive her

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              • #8
                Re: Moms new boyfriend

                Hi there,

                Thank you for reaching out to NRS and sharing your situation with us. It sounds like things are not ideal at home with your mother right now. Have you talked to your mom at all about how you are feeling or your thoughts about leaving home next year and being on your own? If you have and have not felt like your concerns have been heard, have you considered any other modes of communicating with your mom about the situation (such as email, letter, with a friend/family member present)? In the past have there been any specific activities that you and your mom enjoyed doing together that you may be able to suggest to do with her now? These are just some possible things to think about as far as options. We’d also like to let you know that we do have a large database here of different resources, which includes counseling services. If this is something that you think would benefit you and your mom, or if you would like to just talk more about what that would be like, you can call us and we can explore what is in your area further.

                At NRS we are completely confidential and available 24/7 to discuss your situation. Please feel free to reach out to us via our online chat services at www.1800runaway.org or via our safeline number 1-800-786-2929 and we will do our best to help in any way we can.

                Best,
                NRS
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                • #9
                  Moms boyfriend

                  My mom got a new boyfriend over 7 moths ago she and him started going out Saturday's and sleep the night all he has done is took my mother away I know my mom for 10 years and she has known me for 10 years too but she wants to spend time with the person she has knew for 7 months... I just want time with her and also I think my mom and her boyfriend are sleeping at a hotel because every Sunday she comes home there is a hotel key in her bag 😡

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                  • #10
                    Re: Mom's New Boyfriend

                    First, thank you for reaching out to us. It takes a lot of strength to reach out and ask for help which you are doing. It sounds difficult watching your mom going out with her new boyfriend and that you may be feeling a little left out and lonely. It is completely understandable that you want to spend more time with your mom and it sounds like you really love your mom.
                    You can possibly speak with your mom and let her know how you are feeling and that you would like to spend more time with her. You may also speak with friends or an adult you trust about your situation.
                    Again, thank for reaching out to us and asking for help. It took a lot of strength and courage to reach out which you did. If you would like speak with us further, you may call our 24/7 confidential hotline at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or you may reach out to us by chat daily in the evenings.
                    Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                    • #11
                      I'm near the end of the line

                      Hey, I need to vent about all this, it has been building for awhile and I need to get it out somehow.

                      My mom is a single mother, raising 3 kids by herself pretty much as my dad only really visited on holidays, the marriage ended when I was very young. Since she has had to do things pretty much by herself she works a lot but despite that we had a good relationship, she used to take the time to at least listen.

                      Now I'm older, just about to start college, and my mom tells me suddenly of each day that she's met someone. Throughout my entire life so far my mom has never dated, so it's completely new territory for me and at first it didn't really sink in. When I finally met the guy I had a breakdown. I held it in until he wasn't around and then just cried and couldn't control it anymore and my mom just watched and said nothing. She never brought it up or talked to me about/through it which is something she always used to do.

                      Later on she keeps telling me that him and his friends and family are inviting me to go to breweries with them, which would just mean I would sit there doing nothing while they drank beer. They are all around their 50's and generally only talk about things I know nothing about as I'm only 17. I tell her I don't think I should as I'd be uncomfortable around that and might have another breakdown and she just kind of gets this annoyed look and says okay.

                      After that she just kind of stops talking to me about anything. She goes to work and comes home for maybe an hour and then leaves almost every night, I later found out it was to go out with him. She kind of stops buying food for the house, only occasionally getting things, and I can't drive so I can't go out to get food/groceries. And when she does talk to me she acts like nothing has changed at all or just yells at me to do chores. The whole time it's felt as if she's hiding stuff from me and is cutting me out.

                      A few nights ago, I went up to her room and I told her, "I would like it if you told me if you were going to go out cause sometimes I'd like to spend time with you so I'd just like some heads up". She immediately snapped at me and said, "FINE, I'll just tell you everything I do all the time and make sure I have your permission". I tried to tell her that's not how I meant it but she started going on a tangent of accusing of me of controlling her. I started to breakdown again and said, "okay, I'm sorry I shouldn't have said anything". That didn't stop her. I have anxiety issues and I could feel myself really starting to crack so I shut her door, not slamming, and went to my room. I couldn't stop crying and was nearly having a panic attack.

                      I called my brother who lives far away to try and help my panic as he's very good at calming me down but he wasn't at home and I needed to get away. I grabbed my bag and I left the house still trying to call my brother. I got almost out of my neighborhood when my mom came out of the house, she caught up to me and just grabbed my shoulders and walked me back into the house not letting me go for a single second and not saying a word. I'm was still crying and she just put me in my room and slammed my door shut and went back to her room.

                      She has gone out again leaving me alone in the house every night since. And the morning after my escape attempt she sent me a text message that said, "Here, do I have your permission?". And then a list of everything she was doing that day to excessive and insulting detail.

                      I want her to be happy, I really do and I wish I could just be fine with it, but it's the first time she has ever had a boyfriend and it's a bunch of unsure ground to walk on for me. And everytime I have tried to talk with her to tell her how I feel and to move past it she just tells me I shouldn't be upset over and over and over again. I'm apparently just in her way and don't deserve her time. I'm at the end of my rope and I don't want to be around this anymore as it's bringing me a lot of anxiety problems.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Mom's New Boyfriend

                        Thanks for reaching out to the National Runaway Safeline. We’re really happy you reached out to us. It sounds like there has been some really big changes to the relationship you have with your mother recently, and that these changes seem to be making your anxiety issues worse. It also seems like you have tried to talk to her about the fact that she’s never around anymore and she responds by getting angry with you. It’s very mature of you to want her to be happy but also want to spend time with her before college begins for you. It shows very good judgment that you also contacted your brother to discuss how you feel with him.

                        You mentioned that you did attempt to run away once, but that your mom caught up to you and forced you back home. It sounds like you haven’t really communicated with her since that event. From your post, it doesn’t sound like your mom is making your home unsafe for you, but it does sound like you feel hurt because she has stopped talking to you like she used to before she began dating her boyfriend. It is totally understandable for you to feel hurt by this, and we’re sorry that you are going through that right now.

                        Running away is a really big decision and it is important that you think about what it might mean if you try again. We aren’t legal experts, but you could actually get in trouble for running away in some states because you are only 17. If a police officer encounters you, she or he may bring you directly back home. Some other things to think about before running away are how you would be able to feed yourself, find shelter in case the weather gets bad, or even taking a shower. If you would like to try and stay with your brother for a while, you may want to consider talking with both him and your mother to come to some sort of mutual understanding about how long you would stay, whether she would need to give him some money for some of your expenses, and even when and how you would return to live with your mom. If you happen to just go to your brother’s home without telling your mom, it may get him in trouble.

                        Again, it is so good that you reached out to us. We would really like to hear from you to talk more about your situation. Feel free to call us at 1-800-786-2929. We are here 24 hours a day and seven days a week so you can call us whenever or even chat with us using our chat service.

                        Good luck,

                        NRS
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                        • #13
                          Re: Mom's New Boyfriend

                          My mom has had a boyfriend for about two years. Before that we were really close. I would say closer than most parents and their kids. My sister is 24 years older and she used to get jealous. When my mom first got her boyfriend, it was long distance. They knew each other in high school and started talking again. Even though he was not here, I already felt neglected a bit. She just was not emotionally available anymore; she was always on the phone with him, texting him even in inappropriate times, and if she was not talking to him, she was thinking about him. She never wanted to do things with me anymore and when I wanted to spend time with her she would tell me to go in a different room. Well after some time she needed a new job and went to Vegas with her boyfriend to find a nursing job there. I did not want to move because I was half way in my first freshman semester, in honors classes, and had a boyfriend. I stayed with my sister and learned a lot. My mom had my sister at 18 so she was a lot more immature raising her. She would repeatedly hit my sister and my grandma even called child services on her. My sister said that she wishes she was adopted and that my mom was neglectful and only cared about her boyfriends. The same thing I am going through now. In the three months I lived with my sister, my mom was never available. She would not send my sister child support on time and would never call. When I would ask her to do things over the phone with me - like order clothes, she would just say oh get ur sister to do it. It was like she just wanted my sister to take care of me and did not want to deal with me at all anymore. After 3 months, my sister decided she wanted no more communication with my mom, so I had to move in with my brother. The same things happened again. My brother and his girlfriend would get very frustrated that my mom was so uninvolved with everything in our lives and said it was ridiculous. Three months later my brother moved out of state, and my mom decided to come back into state and start a business here. I moved in with her and her b boyfriend. I did not want to at all, but I did not have much of a choice. When she was gone I did not miss her and it was even concerning to me and I felt bad for feeling that way. I had never been happier the six months I lived away from my mom. Now that we live together, she still tells me to stay in the other room, never spends time with me, is always mad at me about something and everything, and does not care about how I feel about the situation. When I tell her she says I am just spoiled and being attention seeking - the same thing she said about my sister when she was a child. I feel neglected and feel that my mom is different than the other moms. I am so good compared to the other kids in my grade, but I always end up in trouble more than them. I am grounded for something almost every other day. My boyfriend even said "it seems like she just grounds you so that she does not have to take you anywhere." I feel unloved and when I try to talk to her about it she tries to blame me. I just don’t want to live with her anymore. She brings out the worst in me. She never appreciates me and never agrees with anything I do. We just do not get along and we are constantly yelling at each other, and lately I have been getting aggressive and breaking things. This is not the person I want to be, and I know it is not right, but I feel that I am just in a very toxic situation and wish that I did not have to have my mom in my life at all anymore.

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                          • #14
                            Reply: Mom's New Boyfriend

                            Hello,
                            Thanks for contacting the National Runaway Safeline.

                            It sounds like you have had some unfortunate life experiences due to a break in the relationship with your mom and her non commitment to provide and be supportive of you.
                            We understand that it has been frustrating for you to time and time again make transitions and adjustments. It does not seem fair that you have been put in this situation.

                            Your strength through this ordeal has been courageous.
                            However it sounds like with the recent move back to your mother has been a struggle emotionally for you. It sounds like you feel with the arguments and constant yelling your behavior has been out of character. You sound upset by it.
                            Good for you for wanting to try and take control of those emotions.
                            It can be difficult to keep things under control especially when you are trying to cope with what you described as a “toxic situation” for you.
                            NRS is here to listen and here to help.

                            If you would like to explore options that might help you regain some composure and focus towards a plan to help you cope with your situation contact NRS at 1-800-Runaway (786-2929) or www.1800Runaway.org (live chat).
                            We hope expressing your feelings tonight has helped in some way.

                            You did a tremendously good job.

                            Take care,
                            NRS
                            Please remember you can reach us directly by calling our 24 hour hotline, 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929) or through our Live Chat.

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                              So I'm 14 and I have 2 siblings my brother 15 and my sister 20 but she's already is living with her boyfriend. Couple months earlier my mum left my dad and took me and started to rent apartment with her new boyfriend (my brother wanted to live with dad) so my mum lived together with her boyfriend about 3-4 months and then they broke up .(they were paying to together). I lived with my mum in apartment but it's pretty expensive so my grandpa is helping with money . We can't leave because we have that apartment contract for 9 month I guess but my grandpa said he will only help while the contract isn't over so when it will over we will have to move somewhere . So it's August now and all summer I lived with my grandma by the beach .( so I didn't know does my mum have somebody) I came back it was Friday she said she will be not home , i thought you know its friday she just wanna have some fun . So she told me she has boyfriend I thought she is staying at his place only at weekends but at Monday she called me and said she will again stay at his place (btw my mom works a lot) and always go to work even if she's ill she will go for couple hours. I called her and ask when she will be home she said actually all summer I living at my boyfriend place (now it's kinda end of august) she said you want your mummy to be happy and I wanna live with him till end of summer . I said okayyy but I wasn't happy . I'm saying to her that's not okay to live alone ( btw I always did everything by myself so it wasnt nothing terrible to live alone) but that's not okay leaving me at 14 i feel alone. When I say that I want her to live with me she's saying I'm already old enough and i have to be happy that I have opportunity to live in cool apartment by myself .We never spend a lot of time together she always working and now I dont even see her often, so remember she said she will live there till the end of summer know she says she will live there school year too but she will coming to me couple time a week (over night) so in 2 months the apartment contract will run out . And she said you can live with me and my boyfriend (btw he's living out of town and I can't say he has a big house for all of us. I said I don't wanna live with him so she said then I guess you will have to live with your grandparents (like my grandparents will always help me but they are the type of grandparents that call couple times a day and you have to be early and study math with my grandpa because he's professor or something) I don't wanna live with then neither because I feel I will not have my own space . I i will be really disappointed in my mum because my brother is living with my dad and she already kind left him and now me! I really don't know what to do I should I live with my mum and her boyfriend but sometimes I think what will happen if they broke up what will I do .i cant live with my dad either because I never was close with him and my sister is leaving with her boyfriend to study in other country. My grandparents aren't happy about my mum because they think that kids should be in first place. But my mum thinks that we are already old enough and she doesn't have to be always next to us I feel jeoules to other girls that are shopping together with there mums for example for food I then there's me walking alone in the shop wondering what should I get . I want to my mum be happy but I want also my mum next to. And about where should I live I feel a little bit lost I feel like I shouldn't be struggling with these kind of problems .

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                                Hi there. Thank you for reaching out to National Runaway Safeline. It sounds like you are going through a difficult situation. It sounds like you really love your mom and want her to be happy, but you are feeling alone and want your mom to be more present in your life. You said when you bring this up to your mom she says you will be fine living by yourself. Have you told your grandparents or your dad about how you are feeling? Perhaps they would be able to help with the situation. You could also seek out a counselor. You can check with your school to see if they have a counselor you can talk to. Another option is here at National Runaway Safeline we do conference calls. We could work together to talk with your mom on a conference call. If you would like to discuss any of these options further we are 24/7, confidential, and anonymous. You can give us a call at 1-800-786-2929. Best of luck.
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