i dont want to be here no more

[idontwantbehere]

hi im 15 yr girl and i dont want to be at home no more , my mom and her boyfirend are always fighting and i alway end up the blam for it . i feel like no one would care if i did, the olny reson i have not yet is becuse of my lil sister she is 5 and i dont want to leave her there , and its not like i can go to my dads becuse he passed away in 2008 . i been feeling like runing away for 2 month but on mother day this year my and my moms boyfriend got in to a REAL big fight and i just dot think i can do this no more . idk someone plzz help me. im tired of my mom letting her bf get in my face .

[ccsmod3]

Re: i dont want to be here no more

Thank you for contacting us at the National Runaway Switchboard. We are sorry to hear about what’s been going on at home between your mom and boyfriend. We imagine it couldn’t have been easy getting in a fight on Mother’s day. You mention wanting to run away, but also not wanting to leave your younger sister. It sounds like she is very important to you and that you care a lot about her. You stated that you cannot run to your dad’s because he has passed away which we are very sorry to hear.

We are not legal experts, but generally speaking running away is just a status offense. This means that youth who haven’t reached the age of majority, most commonly 18. cannot leave home simply because they are not old enough yet. If a youth runs away, the parent/guardian has the right to file a runaway report. If the police locate the youth, they would normally just send the youth back home. Sometimes youth are able to stay with a family member or friend of their parent(s) give them permission. Do you think your mom would allow you to stay anywhere else, even if it is just for a short period of time? Another option might be staying at a youth shelter. They are not offered in every city/town, but they can offer a temporary place to stay for youth who are eligible. They typically require parental consent/notification anywhere from immediately to 72 hours after a youth arrives. That is so they do not get in trouble for harboring a runaway, which to our knowledge it a misdemeanor in most states. We do not know of your exact location, but here are two resources where you can try looking up shelters, should you be interested.

National Safe Place: Offers youth a way to participating shelters.
Visit www.nationalsafeplace.org or text SAFE and your current location to 69866 to find out if there is a Safe Place nearby.

Family & Youth Services Bureau (FYSB)
Visit http://www2.ncfy.com/locate/index.htm and you will find a map of the U.S. Simply click on your state to see if there is a FYSB program in your area.

If neither of these options work and you would still like to find out about shelter, you are more than welcome to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY (786-2929). We are anonymous, confidential, and available 24/7. We also offer a Live Chat Service which is currently open every day from 4:30 to 7 pm CST. Best of luck!

[dontwanttobehere]

re:re; i dont want to be here

thank you , and yes my lil sister is my word ,i all ready tryed asking to stay some where else . i would go to nj my cuzin house or my lil sister dads .but she said the min i step foot out the house she is callin the cops i been in my room sine sunday( mother day ) they have my lil sister bring me food and i can only leave to go to the bathroom .im just really tired of it and now my moms bf is trying to make me look like the bad guy , he told my aunt that i hit my mom andd i would never do such a thing , and my mom is soo in love just gose right whith it .so now my lil sister ask me are you goin to hit me ,,, i really dont want to be here .

[ccsmod3]

Re: i dont want to be here no more

Hello again. We are sorry to hear that you are continuing to have a hard time at home. It sounds like you have thought about where you would go if you leave and are pretty sure your mom will call the police. We are not here to tell you what to do, but we can go over pros and cons of any decision you are thinking. If you’d like to further discuss your situation, we invite you to visit our website’s main page today from 4:30 to 7 pm CST to Chat Live. Or, you are always welcome to call us at 1-800-RUNAWAY anytime of the day.

-NRS